What is "it" for you?

Posted May 13, 2009 from United States

With the overall state of the world seeming to be more and more depressing and scary, I find myself sometimes mired down with sadness, horror, guilt and uncertainty. However, I like to be an optimist whenever I can summon it up and I try to find an uplifting joy in everyday things. I find that each day something different does "it" for me. It may be an unexpected cool breeze on a hot day or a ray of warming sunshine on a cold, bitter afternoon. Oftentimes, I find "it" in a piece of music - the song or artist changes from day to day. It could be a well-known classical piece or a fun, African song from one of my son's Putumayo CD's or a new pop song that grabs my attention and gets my body moving . Every once in awhile "it's" a cup of hot tea in a moment of treasured solitude. I find "it" in the giggles of my son and in the hearty guffaws of uncontrollable laughter with a friend. A beautiful tree or flower will always lift my spirits and make me pause.

So my friends, I wonder what does "it" for you? If you are in the depths of hell or even if you are just having a rotten day – where do you find a moment, a glimpse, a breath of joy?

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  • Jade Frank
    May 13, 2009
    May 13, 2009


    I too find it difficult at times to breathe and to remain positive when my world comes crashing down, when the economy is faltering, when I hear of all the horror stories around the world and crimes on humanity.

    What does "it" for me?

    Coming here to PulseWire and becoming inspired by all the incredible and visionary women here who have endured many hardships, yet are making strides in their communities to change the world and empower themselves and other women.

    Going to the forest or the coast and immersing myself in nature. This helps me to breathe and focus on what I myself can do to make little differences and to remind myself of my place in Mother Nature.

    Baking bread, cookies or a cake - filling my apartment and my senses with yummy smells and tastes. Then sharing the goods with my neighbors.

    Popping into a yoga class, or practicing on my own at home - helps me to push all that negative energy out of my mind and fill my muscles, lungs and mind with peace.

    Going to a live music show with my girlfriends and dancing until my legs collapse.

    Calling my mom.

    These are just a few things that help me breathe.

    Thank you for bringing up this topic! I am eager to hear what other women do and learn some new techniques.

    Warm regards, Jade

  • enDhruva
    May 13, 2009
    May 13, 2009

    Oh I can envision the smells, sights, sounds and moves you have described. I feel happier and more relaxed just picturing them in my mind. Thanks for sharing such wonderful ways to access "it"!


    PS: Perhaps I will see you at World Pulse one of these days! :-)

  • aliĝngix
    May 13, 2009
    May 13, 2009

    When I relax, I just stop and take a breath. The world seems so fast paced and it's the illusion we are all trying to keep up with that tires us out. I stop and remeber no one is rushing. No one is taking advantages over you, or will "beat" you to something. It is the lessons of life to take it slow, to steady yourself and relax...it's calm and quiet, and there's a breeze that blows past you, emphasis the moment. That's what peace is, the mellow security that I am in control of my life, and that I can stop when I want to. Thanks for posting!

  • enDhruva
    May 13, 2009
    May 13, 2009

    Breathing is one of the things that most of us take for granted. Isn't unbelievable how cathartic and cleansing one breath can be? Taking the time to stop, inhale slowly.....exhale slowly and then noticing the calm - it can really make a difference in your state of mind.

    Thank you for sharing!!


  • Maria de Chirikof
    May 15, 2009
    May 15, 2009

    I can find it in tiny doses all around me, constant glimpses that keep me afloat and content as I feel worried about providing for my daughters the kind of life and education I want them to have, the economy crashing and what if I lost MY job and other such fears.

    Listening to my daughters talking to each other often has the effect of cheering me up when I think how very lucky I was to have such strong beautiful daughters who came through our hardship not addicted to anything or otherwise ruined by their hard life. that alone can usually get me feeling like I am a very lucky woman and nothing can keep us down for long.

    Bubbles in a nice hot bath always do it too, especially if I have any kind of espresso coffee or instant fake espresso coffee and some sort of chocolate and a good book to read while in it. Perfect cure for anything that ails you!

    Watching my cat and trying to imagine what she is thinking of us mere mortals always gives me a smile...

    Finding just the right word when I am thinking of how to express something can cheer me up for hours or at least until I write it and get it posted then it starts again but it is a good cycle...

    Standing just outside my door after a hard day and knowing once I cross it I am "home", not a feeling i take for granted anymore!

    The sky and it's infinite shapes and colors!