Open Letter to Women

Jean Forbes
Posted March 8, 2018 from Jamaica

AN OPEN LETTER TO ALL WOMEN

 

Dear Sister,

As I listen and read the news I know like me you want to gather your children close and never let them out into this dangerous world. We cannot do this. They will wander off with or without our permission for they are not ours, but life's longing for continuity.

Therefore we have to strive to make this world a better place. A place where we do not sacrifice our children, scarcely out of the cradles, on the altar of expediency. This is in our hands. For it is the women of the world, the nurturers of the future who build the type of world we want. So I need you to promise the world the following:

`         As of this day I will bring up my girl children to be strong independent women, who will demand that any man who wishes to build a life with them understand that they will do so with respect. That they demand that men understand that I, woman, do not have to prove my womanhood by bringing children into this world. That when I, woman do decide to bring a child into the world it will be a willing collaboration - male, female and the Lord and giver of life. That when I woman, do bring this precious life into the world I will do all to protect and grow it so that when I have to answer to the Lord, he will say "well done".

`         That I will bring up my boy children to respect women. To be all the things I want in a perfect man. That I will tell him that scattering his seed far a wide is the mark of an animal not a man. I will tell him that the mark of a man is the nurturing of the seed, so that it will grow to make him proud. And, if I no longer love the father, I will allow my child his father, whatever he is. For it is in understanding human fatherhood that he will understand the fatherhood of God. I will not therefore denigrate his father or curse my child with the sins of the father. I will remember that if I do that often enough he will believe and fulfill the prophecy. I will show him the power of love, peace and a certainty of his identity and his right to occupy this place at this time.

  • I will bring up my children with a sense of God. So that when the evils of the world try to seduce and entice, they can say no. So that when the trials of the world overwhelm, they have someone to reach out to. So that in a world gone mad they will be certain that there are safe arms to provide a haven of unconditional love and understanding.

`         I will teach my children that rights without restrictions is license, and that since license infringes the rights of others this is the path to envy, degradation and war.

`         I will love all children as I my own. That means that I will wish them all well, even the children of those I cannot like. Visiting the sins of the parent on the child is the way to what we have today. In this way I will be certain that my children are safe, for just as I parent and care theirs someone else will be doing the same for mine

`         I will be independent, so that I will have to take nothing that is not given freely and in love. That means I will learn the trades of my mother. I will remember how she could conjure a living out of scraps. I will learn to crochet, and tat and sew and plant and all things that produce gifts and goods of beauty and love, that are uniquely mine and my country's.

`         I will share with my sister. And my sister will be the woman who needs my love and understanding at the moment.

`         I will be woman born of earth, kissed by the Maker. The peaceful presence that rocks the cradle of the future and waters the earth with occasional tears so that the barren earth will yield its beauty.

 

Jean Forbes

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Anne Dupont
Mar 08
Mar 08

Dear Jean,

This is beautifully said—thank you!

With love, Anne

Corine Milano
Mar 08
Mar 08

Wow thank you for sharing! This is indeed beautiful.

roses are red
Mar 08
Mar 08

Dear Jean,

Very beautiful and very powerful message from you to ALL the women. My heart is so full. I truly promise you to follow and keep the same.

Thanks for sharing
Sending you love.
Rachana

Dear Jean,

This is such a beautiful piece coming from your heart. I like it so much that I am saving this so I can read this commitment regularly. Thank you for sharing. Please continue to write.

Olutosin
Mar 09
Mar 09

Thanks so much for sharing with us. This is my prayer too.

Sophia Atadana
Mar 09
Mar 09

Wow, thanks for much for this wisdom. Indeed, If we all bring up our children this way ,especially in the fear of the Lord, this world will certainly be a better place to live in.

Jean Forbes
Mar 09
Mar 09

Thank you all for your kind comments, please always believe that we can make a difference
Jean

Wendy Stebbins
Mar 10
Mar 10

Hello Jean,

You are such an amazing gift to the universe.
Thank you.

Ubuntu
Wendy

Obisakin Busayo
Mar 11
Mar 11

Dear Jean
Thank you so much for sharing with us. I am greatly encouraged by your words as a mother that is always scared of our dangerous world. This is a great piece and thank you once again
Love
Busayo

Beth Lacey
Mar 11
Mar 11

I echo my sisters' comments. Thank you for sharing.
Beth

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 12
Mar 12

Dear Jane, thanks so much for sharing this. As a woman looking forward to having children tomorrow, I believe I'll bring up strong girl children who will face their own challenges with bold minds.
Thank you!!!

Maria Juana
Mar 14
Mar 14

Thank you for sharing...

Shofali Agarwal
Mar 15
Mar 15

You are right Jean - women need to uplift women, girls need to be kind to girls, it starts with us. Thank you for sharing.

SIMON MUREU
Mar 21
Mar 21

you as me should understand --children are gift from God and we must take care at and in all time as parents

Sister Zeph
Mar 21
Mar 21

Beautiful I love your letter and yes all women should have this courage and sense to give such a future and life to their children and to themselves, thank you for writing such a beautiful letter,

Angelina jyasiwaa
Apr 01
Apr 01

thank you with love

kiese
Apr 02
Apr 02

So eloquently written! Do you mind if I post this on my blog?

trisha
Apr 10
Apr 10

so touching

Araba
Apr 17
Apr 17

Dear Jane,
It is only an experienced person who appreciates and love life, that can write such a beautiful prose to inspire others. You have a beautiful heart and continue to inspire people to right the wrongs of our society. Thanks a lot.

suzette_2
Apr 18
Apr 18

Well said Jean!

The circle of love is habitually nurtured as we continue to support each other from the core of our being with words of wisdom and outstretched arms.

One GOD, one people, one LOVE.

Colleen Abdoulah
Apr 18
Apr 18

GOOD FOR YOU! what an amazing role model you are and will continue to be for your children, other mothers, friends and family and even strangers. To live with this consciousness and awareness is wonderful way to be!

vivian akudo
Apr 26
Apr 26

This is very awesome and powerful

judy_2
May 08
May 08

You articulate well how women are able to make changes by demanding respect! This is a masterpiece. Thank you

AGNES TUMASANG
Jul 05
Jul 05

Thanks for the idea for it will help sisters who are fear letting their children go into the world