I never knew there is a hidden talent embedded in me.

joyce nelly
Posted June 7, 2018
Interacting with friends at a workshop
I was learning how to mingle with like minded changemakers.
I was learning how to mingle with like minded changemakers. (1/2)

My growing up was a very pretty one though it wasn’t full of roses either. I went to a very good all girls secondary school and I believed my problems of insecurity or let me call it low self-esteem started from there. The people I looked up to at that time as friends made me to see and believe that among my own biological siblings I was the ugliest of them all. As a young girl, I grew up with that mentality knowing that there was nothing good I could offer anybody even myself, since I wasn’t considered ‘beautiful’ in their own terms. It got to the extent in which I had to question my mum for her to tell me if truly I was her daughter. I carried that mentality up to my university days, where to even stand in front of the class to present something was hell for me, sitting and discussing with friends I couldn’t say anything I just knew my own point will not be considered, without me even trying to make an effort. I will have ideas in my mind but I will shield them behind Low self-esteem mentality and his made me to lose a lot  in my old days and I felt and still feel terrible about it whenever I sit and refresh my mind back to it.

          Leaving the university and facing life in general was not a bed of roses or a plater of gold. I could not just walk on like that so easily. I had to struggle to mingle with my friends and try to see if I could meet up with their standards. It was a very difficult and harsh reality that I faced out there.

          In this my quest, what I also lacked was acceptance, in my mind I knew nobody wanted me and I was constantly seeking for people to accept me and love me and this quest drove me into the hands of some horrible people in the name of relationships.

          My realization of who I am and what I posses started show casting itself by 2018 when I met some very lovely and hard working women who inspired me, who made me to see that I had so much buried inside of me I just had to walk with the right people, interact with the right people and get the right information.

          People who will make me look deep inside of me and bring out that good vibes that are buried inside. I finally took that decision to break loose firstly that quiet side of me was buried somewhere never to be visited again. They made me to believe how beautiful I was inward and outward and I should not look at myself like worthless, for I can achieve anything if I set my mind on doing.  I am not yet there but I believe I am now that shining light that can never be turn off again, that I am ready now to show to the whole world what I carry and what I can offer, I never  believed I could be doing what I am doing now and that is telling my story to the world making the world to see my insecurities but here I am writing this story, knowing that I have set myself free and I am finally free.

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  • Tarke Edith
    Jun 07
    Jun 07

    Wao Joyce that is good you have shared your freedom and finally free at last more grees to you sister

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    Thanks ma Edith yes am truly free in deed

  • Hello, Joyce Nelly,

    You are beautiful. Believe that in your mind, in your heart, and declare that a thousand times everyday!

    Society makes us think we are ugly because they place a standard of what beauty is. But stand up and stand out and show them that there are different versions of BEAUTIFUL, and embrace that version of a beautiful you.

    I love that you are surrounded with women who encourage you to see your inner and outer beauty. We need more women like that.

    Thank you for sharing your story! Yes, you are free to be the best version of a beautiful you.

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    Thanks Karen for your encouragement I will keep holding my head high knowing that truly the society doesn't define what beauty is

  • jlanghus
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    Hi Joyce. Welcome to World Pulse:-) Woot! Awesome. So, glad you are here and finally shining your light. Thanks for sharing and I hope to hear more from you about what you are passionate about and what your mission is!

    Also, it looks like you are in excellent hands with Sophie at the helm:) Great to see! You are very fortunate, indeed!

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    Thank you Jlanghus I appreciate your comment .yes you will hear more from me soonest. And yes ma Sophie has been a blessing not only to me but many young girls at large

  • jlanghus
    Jun 09
    Jun 09

    You're welcome:) Looking forward to it! Glad to hear it. Hope you have a great day!

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 09
    Jun 09

    Thanks .and better one for you

  • jlanghus
    Jun 09
    Jun 09

    Aw. Thank you:-)

  • Stephanie Mah
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    Sister Anwi, Happy to join you here. Your story is heart touching. Thanks for breaking the silence, please speak out because your voice matter and your story is unique. Cheers!

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    Thank you Stephanie it was a pleasure reading your comment and I will continue to speak out no plans of stopping any tine soon

  • Freddy Njang
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    Dear sister Joyce, That i how i was sometime ago, bot now i am different. Thanks for coming out of you shell. Now is your time to shine ! Amen!!!

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    Thank you freddy u am truly shinning in deed

  • Juvita Akumah
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    My dear sister Nelly, I am glad to hear that you finally discovered your hidden talents. There are many women who are still enclosed in their shells. Please consider helping some women in our community to be like you Thanks for inspiring me with your story.

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    Thank you aunt for your comment .I will not fold my hands but help them in any way necessary .

  • Sera Sakwe
    Jun 11
    Jun 11

    Hi sister Joyce...I am touched by your story.. Thank God it is the past! The light will never dime again... This is the time to shine

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 11
    Jun 11

    Yes sister sera it is really the time to shine no one can stop that light from shinning any longer

  • Ngala Nadege
    Jun 11
    Jun 11

    My sister I read your story and I am overwhelmed you came out of your insecurities.Face your future with confident and do not led anyone look down on you because you are beautiful.

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 11
    Jun 11

    Thanks sister for the comment I won't let anyone bring me down any longer because I am more than them

  • Tumanjong Miranda
    Jun 12
    Jun 12

    Oh my goodness!
    Hey Joyce I can't be more proud of you sister. Many people will not stand up after such an experience in life. I'm glad you finally realized no one can bring the best out of you, but only you. Many girls out there need to learn from your experience and I am hoping you get such an opportunity in the days ahead to talk to our young girls.
    Our fellow girls have instilled an inferiority complex in other girls and they have lived and some died not bringing out the best in them
    We need to reach out to those facing such challenges. You are beautiful sister Joyce and let no one make you feel any less.

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 12
    Jun 12

    Thanks know you sister miranda I that God everyday for making path to cross with lovely people like you and ma Sophie and the rest .I won't let anyone brino me down again .no one

  • Adanna
    Jun 12
    Jun 12

    Dear Joyce,

    Thank you for sharing your story.

    Yes, indeed you are a shinning light.

    Keep shinning sister!

    Love,
    Adanna

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 12
    Jun 12

    Thank you sister Adanna I will keep shining won't let the light be taken away from me.thanks

  • Fudeh Laura
    Jun 12
    Jun 12

    Wow Joyce,am amazed. You are indeed beautiful in and out, you are free and the future hold great things for you. looking forward to read more amazing stories from you.

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 12
    Jun 12

    Thanks you my sister .you will definitely read more from me

  • Rosemary Akinyi
    Jun 13
    Jun 13

    I love your story, may you continue to soar on wings like the eagle

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 15
    Jun 15

    Thank dear I will continue to rise

  • I understand you well, I also fall into this category, but uniquely, mine was couple with pimples all over my face during my secondary school days, affected my self esteem for long.

    I got over it somehow while in University, on my way for lectures, i met an old secondary school mate, who told me surprisingly, "Hey Mayokun, what did you do to your face, its now smooth, that face used to look like manufacturer of pimples before" and I jokingly replied "my face has run out of supplies". We both laughed it off..when I got home after that day's lectures, I look into the mirror and realized truly, all pimples are all gone without medication, so I say to myself, I will try as much as possible to feel good about myself, no matter the circumstances. It has really helped me, not listening to negativity, being optimistic. Keep it up Sis.

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 19
    Jun 19

    Thanks sister Mayokun it's really a terrible situation some girls do face at their Early age of growing up.we thank God we are above that now

  • Phototrybe
    Jun 18
    Jun 18

    You are uniquely, wonderfully beautiful. Glad you're free.

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 19
    Jun 19

    Thanks sister am wonderfully beautiful

  • AGNES TUMASANG
    Jun 19
    Jun 19

    Thank you

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 19
    Jun 19

    Thank you to ma Agi

  • AGNES TUMASANG
    Jun 19
    Jun 19

    Thank you sis

  • Lily Habesha
    Jun 21
    Jun 21

    Beautiful Joyce,
    I'm glad to read your story today. This is a kind of narrating I want to hear everyday. Some families have a way of discouraging children, girls...just one of the child will be belittled or discriminated for no reason. I'm sorry about your past, but your past is gone.
    You have to live today, FULLY. Now is important, you can achieve anything you want.
    God created you perfectly inside out. YOu are beautiful.

    Go wherever you want and live a kind of life you dream of.

    do you know the song:
    ".......your boat
    gently down the stream,
    ......life is but a dream."?
    Dream BIG and live it.

    because you can live it.

    Love,
    Lily

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 22
    Jun 22

    Thank you sister lily I appreciate your comment .I will continue to dream big and live it .Thank you

  • Olubee
    Jun 29
    Jun 29

    Dear sis,
    Thank God you finally discovered who you are.Keep shinning.You are beautiful.
    Much love

  • Evelyn Fonkem
    Jul 11
    Jul 11

    great story thanks for understanding

  • joyce nelly
    Jul 12
    Jul 12

    Thanks

  • ARREY - ECHI
    Jul 18
    Jul 18

    Dear Joyce,
    Glad to know you finally found your freedom.
    You are beautiful just the way you are.
    Keep Soaring.

  • joyce nelly
    Jul 20
    Jul 20

    Thank you sister Arrey I will keep soaring

  • Bonjour et merci encore de partager votre histoire avec le monde. Vous êtes nos seulement jolie mais vous avez aussi bon coeur. C'est vrai que la société a cette sale habitude de nous empêché de rêvé et nous montre que tu n'es pas belle pour paraitre mais si vous trouvez votre confiance en vous; vous saurez que vous êtes magnifique et que personne ne peut décidé à votre place si vous ne la laissez pas faire.

  • joyce nelly
    Sep 07
    Sep 07

    Merci ma soeour riziki

  • Reena Saxena
    Jul 21
    Jul 21

    Stay free forever, of others' opinions and judgements.

  • joyce nelly
    Sep 07
    Sep 07

    Thank you sister Renna I will definitely do that

  • Mia Aittola
    Jul 22
    Jul 22

    Hi Joyce Nelly, how powerful your story and how beautiful you are as you have transformed your own believes of yourself and stepped into shining your true light, no matter what! That is true courage and heart's beauty that vibrates from within and becomes like a magnet to attract all the good and beautiful into your life. You stand as an example for many to step into their light and freedom to be who they are. Blessings and warmest regards from Finland!

  • joyce nelly
    Sep 07
    Sep 07

    I accept greeting from Finland my sister. I will continue being an example out there and nothing will and can stop me now