Life could be so unbeareable mostimes but when you share your worries and past with others, you tend to get a certain kind of relief. How do i start this and end it? WOMEN... why are we treated with disdain? My mother was married to a man from another community in Nigeria and they had a child, some years later the man died and that is where her predicament started. She was put through the worst nightmare of her life. The corpse was washed and she was asked to drink the water to prove that she did not kill her husband and her child was taken from her.

She nearly died, was alienated from everybody for 6 months thinking she was going to die but God kept her and everything was taken away from her. The only Child, her husbands properties, accounts etc. I am that child today who has also gone through her fair share of bad times...fighting for my parents properties from relatives and they getting to tell me that a woman does not have a say as i am not a male child and i dont have the right to land. i have succeeded in the fight and i have taken back all for my mother who couldnt fight for her right and i am now saying WOMEN ARISE AND MOVE because it is time to fight for our rights as human beings.

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This is quite encouraging my dear sister as I read with heave heart and it finally feeling of relief when the last part showed that you have won the prize too. It is a prize, yes because it was fought for. The family has turned what ought to be handed gently to the rightful owner to a thug of war, just because they were happy that their son died and left his properties for them, all these people are happy at the death of their son, if not why dont they take care of what he left behind? they only want to kill another woman who has refused to die!.

I witnessed one in Festac town, it was terrible, they came and packed everything, even with the carpet that was spread in the kitchen, and the family had 5 children! if not for the Close members who fought like mad cow and the woman had to sell the flat and ran away. The Close members closed the Close gate and asked the people who packed the loads to begin to set it the way the father who had died set his house. The woman ran far and I did not see her again till today. She is from the family is from state Nigeria, where we think it would be different.

How many Nigerian women have died unsong in mourning period, how many are still fighting right now and it is so sad that the nation has not really changed form the past, we have only changed the method, it is still the same end result. When a bride cries on the wedding day, the cry covers all these gray areas too. May God Save Women.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale Founder/Project Coordinator Star of Hope Transformation Centre 512 Road F Close Festac Town Lagos-Nigeria https:

Thank you both for highlighting these situations - it is really eye opening and shocking for me to read this and I applaud your courage for sharing.

'Harlem: A Dream Deferred' - Langston Hughes What happens to a dream deferred? Does it dry up like a raisin in the sun Or fester like a sore— And then run? Does it stink like rotten meat? Or crust and sugar over— Like a syrupy sweet?

Dear Kareaids: Way to go, girl. The young shall grow. I am glad and proud of you, for growing up, against all odds, to fight and posess your possession. Irrespective of gender, you are God's special creation, and you are entitled to your entitlements. You are a winner any day, so continue to walk tall, with your head on your shoulders always. You are an epitome of womanhood. Thanks for fighting for your mother, and regards to her. YOU HAVE A RIGHT. Keep up the good fight, and remember, to thank Him always.

Rose Candy @ GrandmaRose Foundation

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