Ineffable Joy

Khai Jhoei
Posted March 7, 2019 from Philippines

While having local coffee one pleasant morning.I emphatically said to my husband that I constantly feel ineffable joy with him.It ushered us to a wonderful whole morning conversation down in the memory lane. When we mutually decided to get married. I inevitably have this dream, dreaming that life will always be good for the both of us.But there's no such thing as perfect journey in marital life. We both worked and constantly work for it. The reality of our marriage has been so much more complex.  Our marriage is precisely like mountain climbing the complex terrain is always uphill and downhill. Even we’ve undoubtedly reached the 90° angle he's always ready to typically perform the taut-line hitch to maintain tenaciously the dynamic tension.If some unique challenges are precisely beyond our control, his there willing to do the knotting. When loads are massive, he'll do the fisherman’s loop because it will not tighten and cut-off; he can quickly round turn and tie down when hitches came through.  There are times he has been mad at me and however decide to respect and embrace me. The mutual confidence of that love year after year is overwhelming. At every key juncture there is precisely an ideal choice to remain committing to our love or get annoyed, give up and stop. But every time, he naturally chooses love.  I know by heart he genuinely appreciates our relationship because it mirrors how he cares our children. The evidence of the love he has for our family is completely around us. The journey we have chosen is not an easy life, but we choose to live every day with full of love, respect and care.  Way back 18 years ago, on how our relationship started.There's no courtship but entered into an agreement to be with each others side.We naturally choose to be in this unique kind of meaningful relationship. To work it out together and naturally discover the ways of mutual love.I vividly remembered how afraid I was to be in a relationship again after redeeming myself from a three year abusive relationship. He willingly walks with me to heal naturally from that ugly past.I humbly thanked God for giving me a man who is genuinely extraordinary, brilliantly simple and humble man. I am extremely thrilled I hitched him out. In the visible presence of all the dear people who are close to us 14 years ago on February 26 of this year 2019. I am gratefully ecstatic we foster our relationship with simplicity, humility and respect. We passionately love and live the covenant we have share. Being married to my husband has allowed me to be myself. He wishes me to be the best that I can be. Continually support me to experience my life the passion I have. He respects me the person I am even I am outspoken, sometimes cranky and sometimes prickly. Occasionally bad at calm conversations. One of the most surprising things about being happily married is how much I enjoy getting to be me; the love he offers helps me blossom.   Being married for 14 years is the most interesting trail I have to journey.It is not merely seeing or walk into it but have to live, appreciate the beauty of it; a thrilling adventure that I don’t need equipping myself but deal the reality of it.  To my dear partner I will always protect the rope, carefully secure the knot at any potential abrasion points. I’ll intentionally try not giving up because maybe we become frayed; I’ll genuinely try gripping of all the number of falls held. I look forward to many more years of great adventure. Kudos to us! Let’s keep it on. Happy 14 years! 

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jlanghus
Mar 08
Mar 08

Hi Khai,

How are you doing? Happy IWD!

Thanks for sharing your inspiring and lovely post. Happy belated anniversary to you! I'm happy to hear about your mutually loving and respectful marriage. Marriage takes work. I hear you, but in the end, when two people who love and respect each other are married, a beautiful bond can be created and enjoyed. I'm very glad you didn't perpetuate the cycle of abuse by finding another abusive partner. I hear of that so many times, so kudos to you, your hubby and your union.

Khai Jhoei
Mar 08
Mar 08

Thanks jlanghus. :) Happy IWD to you too.

jlanghus
Mar 09
Mar 09

You're welcome:-) Thanks!

Hope you have a great weekend:-)

Beth Lacey
10:52am
10:52am

A beautiful story! I am happy for you

Khai Jhoei
1:37pm
1:37pm

Thank you.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
12:59pm
12:59pm

Hi Khai,
This is a wonderful post.. It is very true that marriage takes work and both parties have to be willing to work hard. Happy Anniversary

Khai Jhoei
1:37pm
1:37pm

Thank you.