How does one have consensual sex?

A common rebuttal I hear when I am ranting and raving about non-consensual sex and how everyone should always get a \"yes\" consent is \"how does one have completely consensual sex?\" What the person asking the question is basically saying is that asking for a \"yes\" during sex kills the mood or makes it awkward. From my personal sex experience, not so. Before I even start to do anything of a physical nature, my boyfriend and I ALWAYS ask each other if the other wants to have sex. Because (and anyone who has had a long term relationship knows this) sometimes you are simply not in the mood. It does not mean that you do not love your partner, tor that your relationship is bad, or that you do not enjoy sex with your partner. A number of factors can contribute to not feeling up to sex. You could be tired, not feeling well, stressed, pre-occupied, exct. My point is that most often times it is an outside factor that is killing your sex drive. Too many people think that once you are in a relationship it is totally acceptable to expect sex whenever. Sorry sex is not a member ship card that you can use an unlimited amount of times whenever you want. It is a little more complicated than that. Now to be blunt, the definition of consent is going to change from person to person. Certain things most of us will agree not to be consented on, other things some of us might differ. For example, I do not need my boyfriend to seek consent from me before we do foreplay. I also do not need him to ask for my consent when he is doing things to me during foreplay. Some other women might require that their sexual partners get permission for and during foreplay. Like, I said, everyone is different. But the common theme that most feminists and advocates against sexual assault/rape and violence against women will agree on, is that consent needs to be obtained for EVERY sexual encounter. Before we have actual \"sexual intercourse\" my boyfriend always checks to make sure I still want to. I feel comfortable telling him when \"No\" when I want to. That is something that every single person who has sex should feel comfortable doing. In my humble opinion, consent is sexy. There is no bigger turn on to me than knowing my boyfriend cares about me and respects me enough to make sure that I am 100% into whatever we are doing. So I do have consensual sex, all the time. It is not that difficult to say something akin to \"Are you sure you want to do this?\" I mean, is not 3 seconds worth of dialogue worth having a consensual sexual encounter?