SOS WOMEN!

Leina
Posted May 19, 2011

My emotions are at their peak,my mind is disturbed .I want a change. 15 year old Nancy collapsed in school yesterday and was rushed to the hospital.She was taken to the reanimation ward to be on oxygen.Immediately her breathing improved, the nurses while trying to lift her to a wheel chair to be taken to another ward discovered she was bleeding.They began to rain insults on her and told her relatives she had commited an abortion.Her relatives began ill treating the semi -conscious girl right away calling her all sorts of names and pushing her head.No one was willing to pay for her to see a gynecologist nor any other specialist,thus she was left unattended to for almost an hour.Finally a good samaritan paid for her to be examined and the gynecologist came in to see her. After examining her ,he declared she had not commited an abortion but was on her monthly period.Just as he finished making the pronouncement,Nancy gave up the ghost!.Yes she died because she was not able to talk,the unknown illness had taken away her voice. This is the second shock in a row to me this week.On Monday as I was on my way to the grocery shop in my neighbourhood,I noticed some drops of blood on the roadside and was wondering what could have happened.When I got to the grocery I got wind of the fact that a drunken man beat his 6months old pregnant wife to death the previous night for not preparing his meal.He alledgely used his boots to kick the womans tummy,which led to profuse bleeding.Unfortunately before she was rushed to the hospital that night she had given up the ghost!Yes she died because it is culturally correct for a husband to do whatever he likes with his wife, who is considered by the customary law in Cameroon as part of his property.What can any man do to me if I decide to use my bucket as a chair and it gets broken?It is my property, I could choose to destroy or keep it.It does not matter whether I took the decison to crush my bucket when drunk or sane. This reminds me of the fact that my neighbour collapsed in her farm two weeks ago when she was informed that the money she has been saving from her petty trading for more than six months to be used for her daughters surgery had been stolen by her drunkard husband, who was at that time squandering it in a beer palour with a different woman.When she was rushed to the hospital other poeple paid her bills with the hope that her husband will be brought to reason when he will be informed of the mishap.Sadly,the drunk "gentlemen" said he had no money left on him and that a woman who can be sleeping with him on the same bed and keeping such a huge amount of money without his knowledge can kill.Therefore he needs to get himself a second wife who can be trusted.This same man had abandoned this woman in the maternity when she gave birth to their 9th daughter, four years ago.In his usual drunken state he declared he did not want a football team of harlots,referring to his daughters.He left the woman and the baby and never came back to pay their bills.She was forced to remain in the hospital for two weeks and do odd jobs to make up for the bill. I am in no way trying to potray women as saints or the always correct.It is just that even the most uncompromising chauvinist would agree with me that women in all parts of the world receive extremely harsh treatment from men and sometimes from fellow women.I really want women to be free from this kind of culture which finds it normal for them to be ill treated.

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Daniela I
May 19, 2011
May 19, 2011

We all deserve life, respect, safety, food, and a roof over our heads. The violence experienced by the women in your journal is heart-breaking. I am glad that you have been given the opportunity to share the pain of these experiences with this community--it takes courage and strength to keep going and raise your voice. I too wish for a world where this treatment is unacceptable, and we no longer live in acceptance of violence and unnecessary death.

Leina
May 19, 2011
May 19, 2011

You are right Daniella,it is indeed sad and we cant keep quiet and watch innocent sould perish for natures choice of making them women.Something needs to be done to put a smile on the faces of women world wide.Thank you for reading and replying to this post.There is a pain in my heart until I see a change.

Lisa Bull
May 23, 2011
May 23, 2011

Dear Shekina,

There is change happening each and every day...Just by your willingness to shed light on the atrocity's that are happening in your world as you see it day in and day out. I want you to know that your voice is being heard around the world. Breaking the silence is where the healing can begin. Within your own heart knowing that there is a better way to live life.

Here is a post from my blog that takes your voice even further out into the universe of collective minds. If there is a will there is a way to bring education and healing to all Gods children.

Blessings With Love & Light, Lisa

http://www.braveheartwomen.com/blog-entry/Zaishos-Blog/Silence-Moment/13...
HARMONY
May 24, 2011
May 24, 2011

Women are strong and really loving and caring... If not who will stay with a drunkard and give him 9 children... But iliteracy, poverty and ignorance is what we need to fight in Africa. I am sure if the parent of that small girl were not poor or ignorant they will have taught of something serious and paid for their daughter's treatment to prevent her death.

We need to get up and work... fight and bring change straight from our house, neighbourhood... Our fellow sisters need the change we have the power to create.

Leina
May 24, 2011
May 24, 2011

Yes Harmony you are right women are quite tolerant and forgiving.Education and awareness are the best solutions to the ills plaguing "womanity" today.Thank you for joining your voice. Best wishes Shekina

Zoneziwoh Mbondgulo-Wondieh
May 31, 2011
May 31, 2011

Dear Sister, your article is truly thoughtful.

The complain about women - men engagement is quite a complicated issue to diagnose. There is a problem and that we know. but how do we unanimously join forces and address this problem? there the challenge lies.

Thanks

jazzyjax
Jul 18, 2011
Jul 18, 2011

seems we need to educate the men as well as the women! The women seem to have no recourse against a stronger man!! What is being done to punish these men....nothing, I suspect since women are their property! How can I best be a voice against these atrocities against women? I am working with human trafficking issues at the moment. Where are you, American women and men, we need you." The plea from African women! LISTEN UP! I saw this first hand while I was in E & W. Africa in 2002...doesn't look like much has changed; will it ever?