Social Media Will Be The Death Of Sexism

LuxG
Posted May 27, 2018 from Mauritius

Today is Mother's day in my country.  As I scroll through my social media feed, I'm instantly drawn to the hordes of panegyrics that my online friends have written for their mothers.  It makes me smile but at the same time, I cannot help but think about how those same people often post sexist posts lambasting women for daring to be themselves.  In a patriarchal society like mine, a woman is only sacred if she's a mother, or a sister to a man.  Otherwise, she's just a living commodity, to be leered at and mocked, to be attacked for the most mundane crime of all-daring to choose their own path in life.

To be a woman in my country is akin to having no identity for you are to follow a set of rules that will deify you in the eyes of others.  Should you seek to eschew that mighty pedestal, you'll be robbed of your very identity, your very humanity.  I've seen it happen time and time again.  Female politicians don't even care about the female cause because fighting for women in a patriarchal country is seen as a nefarious goal.  I've never heard a female politician clamor for women's right to choose, clamor for independent women who aspire to greater things than just to be someone's mother, someone's sister.

But as I keep trawling through the various posts adorning my home page, I cannot help but feel a sense of relief.  A relief that's come about because  I realize that our freedom is imminent.  How will they keep oppressing us when our voices are no longer echoing within sexist barriers, but reaching previously unknown limits?  It seems cathartic to me, that social media might bring about the change we've all been waiting for because social media does eradicate taboos endemic to specific cultures.

In my culture, everything from sex to abortion is taboo and the idea that you might broach a topic within that spectrum, used to be at most, preposterous.  But now, with the advent of various forums and websites such as this one, people no longer feel comfortable clinging to age-old taboos.  Social media allows us to have conversations that might seem too risqué for business-as-usual media.  One such conversation that's worth having is the incidence of violence against women in my country.  In the past, even addressing this issue would rub people the wrong way, but now it's evident that most people- even though some of them appear to be mildly sexist-understand the tragedy that's impacted our gender for so long.  And even though authorities and local media might turn a blind eye to it, people on social media are becoming more aware of the disparities that have flourished in a society like ours due to our collective resistance to simple conversations.

Social media has also allowed women in my country to mobilize against toxic masculinity.  No sexist meme shared goes unnoticed, every girl regardless of her age, takes umbrage when she sees a degrading post about women. This has given rise to an ascending culture of mutual respect, whereby men understand that mocking women is no longer in fashion, and we deserve the same amount of respect that we freely give to them.

Witnessing this gargantuan change has filled me with hope and a newfound contentment, for the women in my life-my mother and grandmother-never expected this change to occur in their lifetime.  They were robbed of their agency and their desire to succeed just because society deemed they'd be better suited for domestic life.  They were routinely bossed around and subjected to humiliation just because they carried an extra X chromosome, but they persevered and embraced their tacit suffering for the sake of their loved ones.  With this new determination to extinguish all sexism on social media, I feel proud that I live in an era that will see us finally freed from the bondage of gender-based discrimination.

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  • Olutosin
    May 27
    May 27

    Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts about this topic. This is exactly how I feel too. In addition, social media has also help us to expose the evil done to women. This month in Nigeria, pictures of women murdered by their intimate partner scattered throughout the social media. Many women came out to speak about their experiences online. In the same vein, some daring women who did the same to their husbands were shown. I hate violence, but social media gave no hiding space for this vice.

    It also helps us to access help from far and near. I am Sure that we shall conquer in the end.

  • LuxG
    May 31
    May 31

    Thank you Olutosin.
    I'm so sorry to hear that. But like you said, social media will expose those who dare to hurt women and this will help us prevent other such tragedies.

  • jlanghus
    May 28
    May 28

    Hi LuxG:) How are you doing? Haven't seen you around these parts lately...ha:) Great to see your story hear, and that's also a great update. You're too right, though, awareness is definitely a positive side effect of social media. I do hope we continue to see sexism dispelled throughout my lifetime. It's time.... yes!!!!

  • LuxG
    May 31
    May 31

    Heey Jlanghus, I'm doing okay, what about yourself :)?
    I'm sure we'll be bidding farewell to sexism within our lifetime, that's for sure!!

  • jlanghus
    Jun 01
    Jun 01

    Just okay? You aren't being harangued any longer, are you?

    I'm doing well, thanks:)

    YAY. God, I hope so. Such a breath of fresh air!!

  • coolasas
    May 28
    May 28

    Hello Luxg,
    I like that your post exudes positivity despite knowing that the challenge before us women in your country, in mine and around the world is big to be overcome alone.

    We are not alone anymore; we have the social media to bridge that gap and bring us all together. Sometimes the social media also show us the ugly truth about people especially the men that you mentioned in the beginning who adored their mothers but at the same time disgrace other women not related to them - such hypocrisy!

    Keep on believing and hoping that we will find ourselves in the day where we achieve gender equality globally.

    Cheers,
    Coolasas

  • LuxG
    May 31
    May 31

    Thank you for your support Coolasas!!

  • Beth Lacey
    May 28
    May 28

    Yes, social media can be a great equalizer.
    Beth

  • LuxG
    May 31
    May 31

    You're right Beth !
    xx

  • angelam28
    May 30
    May 30

    You have touched on the truth in your post. Social Media can be used to empower women. I believe that it is up to each of us to own our individual power whether that be through motherhood and the values we instill in our children or as independent women who are influencers in our society. I hope that the women politicians in your country realize the platform they have can be used to bring about social justice for the girls who are most likely looking up to them as role models. Luxg keep fighting and influencing for a better society for the women and girls who look up to you as an empowered modern women.

  • LuxG
    May 31
    May 31

    Thank you Angelam28 xx

  • Sophie Ngassa
    May 31
    May 31

    Hello LugX,
    Thanks for sharing this thoughtful piece. The issues is common to so many women. We are really exposed to all kinds of insults in this world. It is pity.

  • LuxG
    May 31
    May 31

    Thank you Sophie!
    While insults get thrown our way, we've shown the world that we women, face adversity with resilience and pride :D

  • Ako Oku
    May 31
    May 31

    Well done my sister! Well detailed and written.

    It reminds me of Chimamanda Adichie's TED talk- "We Should All Be Feminists." Time is now to reverse the trend of all forms of discrimination and violence against girls and women.

    Again well done to you for this enlightening write up. Keep it up!

  • LuxG
    May 31
    May 31

    Thank you Ako :D

  • Obisakin Busayo
    May 31
    May 31

    Thank you my sister for sharing! this is well articulated
    Love
    Busayo

  • LuxG
    May 31
    May 31

    Thank you Obisakin!
    Much love xx

  • Hello, LuxG,

    You are right on point. There is hope for equality with social media on our side. Our voices can now be heard with one click away.

    Thank you for sharing your detailed observations.

  • Urmila Chanam
    Jun 05
    Jun 05

    It is a beautiful goal to end sexism in every space and I am happy even if its only happening on social media. If we begin somewhere we will get somewhere! In India, sexism on the streets is the high rape cases and murder of victims as small as 6 months old to 60 year old granny. In India, sexism is few women keeping jobs and having leadership roles, the glass ceiling. The sexual abuse at work place- who is talking about it? Why just sexual abuse there is extreme subjugation at work place by male leadership and patriarchy of women colleagues and dismissal of female leadership, idea, work. A male colleague enjoys dual benefit of being treated superior due to his designation and another because he is a male. I have suffered from sexism in different forms in my work life and everyday I tell myself, I will fight it.

    I wish you all the best in your journey.

    Love and hugs
    Urmila Chanam
    urmila.chanam@yahoo.com