Let's get rid of "standards".
We all know of the double, even triple standard arbitrarily applied to some group of people, just in name of some stereotyped image.
Anytime we do accept a standard, or enforce our own, we state a blasphemy: that people can, and should, be sorted into classes. And then, named, predicted, oppressed.
In my life I've seen many times double standards applied. And rationally I have to admit: they are a form of violence. Just one of the many. But an important one. Let me say, essential - dividing, and then conquering and oppressing, is the old hallmark of patriarchy: it thrives in divisions and oppositions.
My first invite (to myself, to begin with) is being aware of double standards. Often they are subtle, and even sincerely made "in our best interest" in good will. So subtle, they entwine and shape our minds. Even phrases like "Oh, dear, it would be fine for you to lift your teacup with two hands - doing differently wouldn't suit you!" And most often, they are explicit, and decisive. "You can't do/own/act/express concerns/be paid fairly".
We should go on, however. None of these standards is rationally justifiable, nor acceptable.
My dream is, in this respect, a World where each human is individually known and celebrated, in her/his uniqueness.
Where gender, in its all shades is just one character as anyone else, without overemphasis.
This is not, in my opinion, impossible.
Let's then imagine. May we, then, begin building a little bit of it? Together all over, we can!
Mauri16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence 2009