Introducing myself and my journal: CALL ME POSITIVE!

Miriam Banda
Posted October 6, 2010 from Zambia

About Me: Am a mother of 2 youths aged 21 and 18 and aged 46 years. I grew up in a polygamous household as my dad had 3 wives and a number of concubines, who altogether gave birth to his 24 children. Growing up in such a big family has helped in my walk as an activist and I have never had a problem with the "BIG PICTURE", literally! I joined HIV activism in 2003, a year after my husband died from AIDS related complications of TB/Meningitis and have never looked back. I always say that I was pushed into leadership, having been shy middle child in a big household. I was educated at a Catholic school, so you can imagine the inhibtions that I came with even when I was finally elected as the National Chairperson of the Country Network, NZP+. Thankfully, by the time I had served my first term, I was an out of the box African Feminist and I decided I needed to take a break from trying to clean up the mess (!!) that the patriarchial socialisation had eked out! I realised that I needed time for me to grow not only spiritually but also artistically. So, am now a budding writer as well as a designer of beaded jewellry and a budding artist...

My Passions: Reading, writing poetry, mentoring young people especially women

My Challenges: being a single mum / a volunteer / living in today Zambia

My Vision for the Future: Better economic Empowerment of not only women but the youth as well as a nation free from HIV related stigma

My Areas of Expertise: Facilitating / Motivational speaking / Public speaking

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  • Fatima Waziri - Azi
    Oct 06, 2010
    Oct 06, 2010

    Hey there! Welcome to PulseWire!

    Thank you for sharing your story. It’s so exciting having you with us, I am sure you will have a fabulous time with your new online friends as well as find this to be a very positive experience. I encourage you to take advantage of the numerous resources and features available through our vibrant online community. Welcome again to our global community and I look forward to hearing more from you here on PulseWire!

  • Olutosin
    Oct 06, 2010
    Oct 06, 2010

    Welcome to Worldpulse, this is our online family house, please feel free to share, connect and collaborate and as I usually say again and again that this is a safe community where we are happy to share from personal to global issues affecting us, we are all ears for one another.

    Every situation brings out the best in us, until recently do I know how good I am, yes, I always thought I was inadequate, not good enough and that is what every one made me believe until one day when I said enough is enough and I began to discover God's deposits, thank God I missed death the last time I was seriously sick and I just told God to give me a chance, so I can be a good leader and not someone that can be pushed about like dummy. Today, just like you I am creative. Welcome once again, we are friends.

  • Miriam Banda
    Jun 06, 2011
    Jun 06, 2011

    The day 23rd May 2011 will always remain vivid in my mind for that is the day that I lost my six month premature grandchild - my 21 year old daughter had just 3 weeks earlier told me that she was pregnant. (she was having unprotected sex...after all the information that I given her - was my first internal reaction in horror!!) After the initial jolt (!!) I was then filled with an incredible joy inside of me and I even penned a poem to my soon coming grandchild entitled "My little morning love"

    My little morning love / is what you are to me /for the thought of you/ gives me renewed joy/ with the dawning/ of each new day/as I am brought closer/ to your expected delivery date! My spirit soars/ Just at the thought of your birthday/ that only God our Father/ would know!/ May that day arrive/ with your mother's health/ at its utmost best/ yes! Thank you Father/ for the gift of the life of my first grandchild. May she/he see many/ many years of a prosperous life/ rich in harmony, ties and lessons of Life/ May my child Kaunda hold her grandchildren in her arms/thank you Father for my children/ thank you Father for their father...

    Am still in a state of numbness that am trying to discard but dont seem to be doing daughter seemed to be getting better but now that for the past 2 days she has not been so much with other people (families do have responsibilities and after all, life DOES continue) she was teary yesterday and i can only continue to ask GOd to heal her from the inside...if am hurting like this, what about her even after the breats have gone down after the initial swelling as a result of the pregnancy.... Am giving her about another 2 wks and then we will document what went down on that day and night of 23 May and I will institute on her behalf, proceedings to investigate. Already there are other cases involving the younger women losing their babies prematurely and I and colleagues intend to document and present the stories to the relevant authorities at the Teaching Hospital where this has happened and still continues happening...that the little girl whom I already started calling my morning love should die only 2 hours after her birth as a result of not being taken immediately to the Incubators at the neonatal D block because she was a premature did not happen for nothing because she was the first grandchild of this community activist....who has always lent her voice to the cause of others who are vulnerable in society....SO HELP ME GOD....