What it is like to be a single mother

Iam a single mother of two.I became a mother immediately after school and therefore i had no source of income,it was not easy for me.I was sent away from home and i had to stay with a relative,all this time no one bothered about my children.No one ever bought clothes for my children,i remember leaving my relatives home because everyone was talking about me and asking why the father of my children could not shoulder his burdens,i left one day and sneaked home,left my children and off i went to the city to look for a job.

God was on my side and i got a job.I took my children and i have tried to survive.Life has not been easy though because my children have faced rejection because of being raised by a single mother,you cannot make a contribution and advice a married woman even on issues not related to marriage.Men look at single mothers as easy targets for sexual harassment.Everyday provides a million reasons to be bitter and quit but there are reasons to persevere,its sad to struggle.Its a society where our children are learning politics of communal hatred and might bring destruction in years to come.

As a single mother i have tried to prove myself,to be more capable,organized but people often relates me to single wood,it makes me to miss the real me,a barrier of separation.its discrimination,its insulting,humiliating and really frustrating.But i have learn t to surrender and let my single hood be what God uses to improve me and others,tough things in life trains us,they equip us to love others,when we feel our tears,we can better feel the pain of others.

Finally,i would like to say that in the community i come from,girls who give birth to children at home go through what i went through,the number is increasing everyday and there lives is at the mercy of God,some wish they could go back to school and others wish they could find some source of income.African men rarely marry a woman with someone else's child.