Be who you are and live the life you want

Lily Habesha
Posted December 28, 2017 from Ethiopia
Be true to yourself
And be true to others

In my country, pretending is like tradition or a life style...don'know how to name it.

For example, someone visits another family. This person can be served a dish he hates most. He'll eat it telling his host the food is his favorite meal.

When I was in highschool, I went to visit a friend's house. It was my elder sister's friend's house. They had u.countex red plum trees. My sister's friend had a younger sister of my age. The young one made a red plum jam and they served us tea and bread with it. I bite the sandwich and hated it. I put it back on the table and refused to eat it. My sisyer's friend asked me; "Why don't you eat?"

"It doesn't taste good."

I said. The big girl sytarted laughing at my boldness. She told me who made it and begged me to eat a piece at least. I refused. That made my sister and her friend laugh more and more.

I live without pretending.

Everywhere I go, I dress what I likr. I eat what I need. I speak what I feel. I talk to people I feel comfortable to be with. I go to placez I can enjoy. I aattend meetings where I can learn something new.

As I don't plan to hurt others, I can't stand it when people stand on my way. I never do things to please others out of my way.

Life is short. Nomatter what people think about me, I enjoy life the way I live. I laugh out loud most of the hours everday. I see life like a live show. From mornig to evening, I can write a lot of drama script. Things which annoys others can make me smile. Sometimes, I can be mad at things which can make others smile.

I love myself the way I do.

Be yourself.

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jlanghus
Dec 28, 2017
Dec 28, 2017

Hi Lily. Thanks for sharing your story of authenticity. I love that you are real, honest and authentic. You could teach most girls and women a thing or two about this. Even I haven't been that bold because I worry too much about what people will think:-)

Lily Habesha
Dec 29, 2017
Dec 29, 2017

Jill, 

We have to be ourselves. However you worry about them, they'll always talk about us.

I live my life, and let them talk.

Lily

jlanghus
Dec 29, 2017
Dec 29, 2017

I totally agree. It's just the habit that's hard to break:-(

Nusrat Ara
Dec 28, 2017
Dec 28, 2017

Dear Lily, I love your mantra of being yourself but not everyone is able to follow it. There are cultural sensitivities among other things that hinder it. But those who do are courageous and strong. 

Lily Habesha
Dec 30, 2017
Dec 30, 2017

Dear Nursat,

As I saw people around , they expect you to act as their expectation, but never cares about you. Why should I squeeze myself or deny my rights to make others happy? I live a clean life, but never tried to pretend.

Thanks

Lily

Tamarack Verrall
Dec 28, 2017
Dec 28, 2017

Dear Lily,

It takes guts to live authentically, and it was fun to read about you as a feisty girl unwilling to pretend. That strength, to be true to yourself and to be uninhibited enough to laugh out loud can make so much possible. "I love myself the way I do". What a great statement, so important to love ourselves as women, still too rare!

In sisterhood,

Tam

Lily Habesha
Dec 30, 2017
Dec 30, 2017

Tam, that is very true.

The way I dress, is only to make myself happy. Wash my face eith clean water, no mskeups, no ear ring or ring, some times, I use necklace if it's Africa's map...

Never planned to attract attention of anybody. I design make my own clothes, loved by everyone.

I try to live peaceful life. I avoide arguments like religious and politics. I speak human. No race, no color, no sex...everyone is my tribe, humanbeing.

I've no fear of people, danger, ....what'll happen is going to happen.

I love my God, and He is my only dependable parent, friend and everything.

Thank you Tam

Lily

Olutosin
Dec 28, 2017
Dec 28, 2017

You are right dear sister. Authenticity is key. Life is too short to live another person's life when you are not a photocopy. I always come straight forward, when someone gives me what I hate, I will reject it instantly. Many people make fun of me because of my hairstyle, I don't give a hoot. I am me and I want to be comfortable in my skin. Yea.