La vie familliale

Celestine Nabintu
Posted July 16, 2012 from Democratic Republic of the Congo

La vie familliale,dans nos familles,la femme ne peut pas s’exprimer son desir sexuel,sinon son mari la considere comme prostituee,dans cette situation nous vivons dans la crainte en famille’

English translation by PulseWire member Aurore

In our families, women cannot express their sexual desires. If they do so, their husbands consider them to be prostitutes. This leads to a situation where we, women, live in fear within our own families

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  • Aurore
    Sep 24, 2012
    Sep 24, 2012

    Bonjour Nabintu, je suis traductrice volontaire pour Pulse Wire et l'équipe de PulseWire a voulu que vos articles soient aussi accessibles en anglais pour toute notre communauté. N'hésitez pas à partager vos expériences. La place de la sexualité au sein des couples et des familles est un sujet très intéressant, et votre contribution très utile ! Bravo pour votre engagement et votre détermination. Respectueusement, Aurore

  • Aurore
    Sep 24, 2012
    Sep 24, 2012

    In our families, women cannot express their sexual desires. If they do so, their husbands consider them to be prostitutes. This leads to a situation where we, women, live in fear within our own families

    (This is an English translation of the blog post)

  • Leslie Stoupas
    Oct 07, 2012
    Oct 07, 2012

    Nabintu,

    Thank you for sharing this story. It sounds like there is such a misunderstanding of women's sexuality. How frustrating that must be. What do you think needs to happen to change this?

    I admire your strength in sharing this story!

  • Shelley Megquier
    Oct 11, 2012
    Oct 11, 2012

    Thanks for your post, Nabintu. Society's discomfort with female sexuality seems to be a problem all over the world. What a shame that a woman must chose between being demonized and enjoying pleasure. I think sex education for youth in schools would help to dispel commonly held misconceptions about human sexuality and especially female sexual pleasure.

  • wanja
    Oct 12, 2012
    Oct 12, 2012

    Thank you Bintu for speaking up about this. It is a real problem for many of us women in

    africa because of cultural practices that make speaking about sex taboo. Be encouraged to know that women have made inroads on this because of the changing trends and exposure to cultures that do not shy away from these things. Keep talking my sister because of you keep knocking, the door will finally open. Please bear in mind however that men change very slowly so give them a little time but keep pushing.

    Regards

    Liz