RIP Nyazaninka Francine

Neema Namadamu
Posted February 21, 2018 from Democratic Republic of the Congo

My dear young daughter, you see how it is all so crazy. They can move from Congo to America, but their habit, their character doesn’t change. This man thought that it would be like it was in Congo; such things are handled among the men. Maybe a cow for your family and the issue would be settled. His dad, his grandpa, his grandpa’s grandpa, they never saw the value of girls. I could wish that this guy would get a sentence of 175 years to make a strong statement about the value of girls. Rest in Peace my precious.

Your cry is filling and bouncing off the inner chambers of my heart. I know you were special. But they wouldn’t see it, couldn’t see it; blind, ignorant. Your innocence, your naiveite, your promise – only 16 years old – I miss YOU my daughter! You exemplify so many that have gone before you. May you be the last. May your cry demand to be heard. May they hear YOU!

Out of the grave we arise, because we must. Dead yet alive, out of the tomb we will walk into our future.

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jlanghus
Feb 22, 2018
Feb 22, 2018

Hi Neema. Thanks for sharing your sad story about Nyazaninka:( May she rest in peace.

Wendy Stebbins
Feb 22, 2018
Feb 22, 2018

Dear Neema.

I read your words and the article twice because I wanted to believe I had read it wrong. I am so very sorry for your niece's untimely passing. I cannot even imagine how much you are suffering and the pain you and all your family are in and will continue to be in for a long time. Please know I am praying for you all, thinking about you. Your pain is my pain. 

We do not know why God wants your niece home so soon. Perhaps he loves and misses her so much also and needs her in heaven with him.

What we DO know is that your niece is safe and happy. It is just that she had to leave before you were ready to say goodbye. She is probably singing and dancing with the angels right now. 

Neema, I know there is nothing I can say to make you feel better. But please know I love you all, I am praying for you and my arms are strongly around you. I hope you feel them as I want to help hold you up.

It is okay if you weep and weep as Mother Mary did. They are tears of pain but also of love for a special young woman who was taken home before you were ready to say goodbye.

With arms around you,

Wendy

Neema Namadamu
Feb 22, 2018
Feb 22, 2018

Dear Wendy, my pain is not as much about this girl’s untimely passing, so very tragic as it is, but more about a cultural paradigm that keeps women and girls as only property in the mind of Congolese men. It is not that she died young; she was spared a lifetime of marginalization and abuse. My sorest pain is that she is a glaring example of how women and girls are viewed; as disposable, of no consequence, easily replaceable.

Furthermore, Francine is not any closer to Jesus now than she was while still walking this earth, for Jesus is not sitting on a throne on some faraway planet, but is one spirit in/with her – One. We don’t have our identity apart from Him, but in Him, of Him; One in, with, and of Him. Though most in this realm are not cognizant of this Oneness, it doesn't make it any less Truth.

Our time in this realm is about one thing – transformation; "be transformed by the renewing of your mind". That’s what I’m about. Not just for myself, but for all of mankind. Taking a stand for social justice is the responsibility of every awakened individual. Love compels us. As Martin Luther King said, “I have a dream…” And it is not my dream as much as it is the dream from the beginning: “Let us make man in our image and after our likeness.”

In Love,

Neema

Wendy Stebbins
Feb 22, 2018
Feb 22, 2018

Neema, I am sorry, I at first thought this was your niece. I mean your daughter. 

Neema Namadamu
Feb 22, 2018
Feb 22, 2018

Francine is a daughter of my people.

Olutosin
Feb 23, 2018
Feb 23, 2018

May she rest in peace and may justice prevail. This is very sad.

otahelp
Feb 06
Feb 06

Dear Neema, its so unfortunate that Francine has to go the way of all mortals so young. who knows what could have caused this gruesome act from her dear uncle. the world is so evil and wicked. take heart while we hope that she gets justice for her untimely death. thank you for sharing the burden of your heart