My Signature Walk

Neha Gauchan
Posted March 9, 2018 from Nepal

 

Walking is an art. It shows how other people see you and judge you as a person. If people notice me, the first thing they see from my outer look is my round-shaped glasses without which I cannot live and second is my one and only walk. “Walk like a girl” has been a common phrase that I’ve heard since my childhood and since I don’t walk like how “normally girls do”, people question my femininity every single time.

I walk in a certain way, different than many girls do. This dates back when I was a young child. I could say this is somewhat an influence of having a twin brother who is only 8 minutes older. This did make a lot of difference in a way that my character as a child was shaped. Being the only girl in my family, I used to hang out with lots of boys and people often termed me as a tomboy. Never have I ever had Barbie dolls or carried Disney bags in my entire primary school years. Instead I was a die-hard fan for power rangers and WWE wrestling shows on TV. Along with that, I knew and used most of the signature moves of wrestlers such as “Batista bomb”, “Choke slam” and (many more that I don’t remember now) to my guy friends. A naughty tomboy as a kid, people criticized whenever I wore black hip hop t shirts, baggy pants, shorts and played basketball with boys rather than being a girl and adhering to rituals at home. They expected me to do household chores, clean the house, help my mom out, sit cross-legged and to “always be like a girl”.

Something as simple as having a "walk" in Nepal meant the whole world to a young teenager like me because every step of my walk was carefully judged and analyzed to be termed as the "men- like walk". This was definitely disappointing for me as my own parents and relatives who knew my upbringing were the ones to comment on my outer presentation. As a child, I always listened to them and never once went against their opinions. Many times I tried walking "like a girl" however my physique did not support the brand-new form of walk which was forceful and burdensome. 

I’m 21 now and many things have changed yet the one trait that has been unaltered over the years is the way I walk. Girls of my age walk with a posture that would show off their body and curves but for me, I hunch my shoulder and walk as fast as I can. I never stand straight and upright. However, the feeling of contentment I feel with my posture is why I love the way I walk. My body automatically turns into that self-mode and I feel comfortable to strove my body the way I like. The way I walk does not reveal my body and it does not make me look poise enough. I know that. I may not walk pretty or as elegant as other girls do but surely the signature walk that I am born with makes me confident and empowered. My signature walk is real and I do not have to fake it to those who criticize me.

This post was submitted in response to You Are a Silence Breaker..

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  • francisca okwulehie

    Aww..How cute Neha, I walk very fast too. You are not alone.

  • Neha Gauchan
    Mar 17
    Mar 17

    We are on the same boat ^_^

    Fighting !! Thank you so muchh !!

  • Hi Neha
    Wooooowww am glad you didn't submit to the pressures of society. It's good you have your own signature work that's all that matters. Being yourself is very important it gives your inner peace and makes you more confident. Well done and am sure young girls will be inspired by this strong story.
    Forever in sisterhood.

  • Neha Gauchan
    Mar 17
    Mar 17

    Yes, I'm glad that I didn't listen to them. My inner voice was more stronger than theirs.

    Thank you so much Anita. Forever in sisterhood.

  • Olutosin
    Mar 09
    Mar 09

    You are unique my sister. Why be like the rest when you can stand out! Enjoy your uniqueness and yay, I love your voice. Keep on writing.

  • Neha Gauchan
    Mar 17
    Mar 17

    Thank you so much Olutosin :)

    Yes, be unique. Always !

  • Hello, Neha,

    I am smiling as I read your post. I got criticized too by how I walk. Like you, I used to wear loose shirts and pants. I slouched, too. Very much like a tomboy. I could not count how many times I was taught to walk like a woman.

    Embrace what makes you YOU (although there are health benefits when we stand up straight).

    Looking forward to reading your stories!

  • Neha Gauchan
    Mar 17
    Mar 17

    We're similar in many ways Karen. Yes, its very important to love yourself than anyone else. Loving and embracing oneself heals your mind and soul. It definitely made a positive impact on me as well.

    Thank you for the support :)

  • I agree. My pleasure, Neha!

  • jlanghus
    Mar 10
    Mar 10

    Hi Neha. Welcome to World Pulse:-) Thanks for sharing your story. I love your smile, by the way:-) Looking forward to more stories from you...

  • Neha Gauchan
    Mar 17
    Mar 17

    Thank you so much Jlanghus. Yes, I'll keep on writing and posting stories here. Will keep you updates ^_^

  • Ann Forsthoefel
    Mar 20
    Mar 20

    Hi Neha,

    I am sure your walk is beautiful because it is of power, strength & joy! keep on walking sister.

    In solidarity,
    Ann

  • Neha Gauchan
    Jun 22
    Jun 22

    Thank you @Ann Forsthoefel :)

  • Wendy Stebbins
    Mar 20
    Mar 20

    You are amazing, Neha. Your picture with that adorable, infectious smile got me drawn in right away and says it all. You are definitely a winner. And you are RIGHT. Your walk tells a lot about you. In Livingstone, Zambia where I work with street orphans I mantra constantly "Walk like you are SOMEBODY!". It works.

  • Neha Gauchan
    Jun 22
    Jun 22

    Thank you @Wendy. Hope to touch lives through my smile and my writing !!
    Yes " Walk like you are SOMEBODY !" Have integrated that on my mind :D

  • Immaculate Amoit
    Mar 21
    Mar 21

    Dear Neha,
    I am so glad you didn't submit your self to gender stereotypes as a woman and this is what will help you stand up against all other forms of injustices against women.

    Thank You for being you, you have paved way for so many other women and girls by choosing to sit outside the box

    In sisterhood
    Immaculate

  • Neha Gauchan
    Jun 22
    Jun 22

    Thank you so much for the encouragement @Immaculate :) Hope both of us can pave the way for other girls to voice their opinions and live out of that comfort bubble <3

  • Stella Paul
    Mar 21
    Mar 21

    Dear Neha, I am from India and like Nepal , in our country also women are expected to walk, talk and even smile in a certain way. Those who dare to be different, are criticized. By writing this post, you have just motivated many to be their true self. Kudos to you! And keep writing!

  • Neha Gauchan
    Jun 22
    Jun 22

    Thank you @Stella. Yes, Nepal like India in many ways share cultural traditions, ideas, and stereotypical beliefs If we don't stand up then who will?

  • soul on fire
    Mar 23
    Mar 23

    Dear Neha
    Every one is unique in their own way and I loved it

    stay awesome

  • Neha Gauchan
    Jun 22
    Jun 22

    Thank you @Soul On Fire :)

  • Jacqueline Patiño
    Apr 08
    Apr 08

    Love your story! It is so fresh and youthful it makes me have faith in the young again! Hehe

    I almost thought youngsters did not care about anything but selfies, and here you are, walking your signature walk and making me proud to read you!

    Love,

    Jackie

  • Neha Gauchan
    Jun 22
    Jun 22

    Thank you for your words, @Jacqueline. It would be purely generalization if we said that youngsters only cared about selfies. There are many whom we have yet to encounter !!

  • Naheda Shaikh
    Apr 14
    Apr 14

    Hi, Neha,

    Nicely expalined, I walked like man, my husband sometime comment on me when I wear sari, that Nazakat to hai nai...ha ha ha its very funny. but now I am slowly changing.

    you are confident that's good.

    keep sharing.
    Thank you,
    Regards,

    Naheda

  • Neha Gauchan
    Jun 22
    Jun 22

    Thank you @Naheda. Don't change for any other people because you are a gem. Be confident as you are !! Love from Nepal !!

  • Wendy Stebbins
    Jun 23
    Jun 23

    Neha,thank you for your reply.

    You have such a spirit about you, such an energy. I imagine you are sweet and feisty at the same time. Kind but nobody is going to push you around.. Love it. You know what you are about, "the real deal" as we say in America
    Definitely headed for greatness! Good luck.
    Wendy