Why All The Hate?

Ada Ngoh
Posted February 18, 2010 from Cameroon

I began a discussion with my colleagues at work today on the subject of gay rights and as usual, everyone was against me and some even suggested that I be prayed for, because I was probably demon possessed, or I was ignorant and did not know what I saying because I was not a lesbian and certainly could not argue for them.

I do not understand why what two people agree to do behind closed doors is of so much concern to others. Who do gays and lesbians hurt by doing what they do? Why do people find it so hard to believe that people are born that way?

Africans, while we are so quick to say this is a way of life that was imported from the West, think again. Have you ever heard stories of men who supposedly impotent, and had to call their brothers to sleep with their wives and make babies for them? Is it not possible that some of those cases were men who were not in anyway attracted to women?

And while we want to justify homophobia by religion and the love of God, have we forgotten that hundreds of years ago, left-handed children when labeled children of the devil? These children were forced and traumatised use their right hands. Today, it is unthinkable to even voice such a thing.

And if you say it is not natural and that people are not born that way, how about dolphins and chimps who are occasionally gay? Were they trained by men to be that way?

Why is so difficult for to accept that people could be born gay, just like hermaphrodites or a baby born with six fingers and that all of these are just anomalies?

For me, it is simple. I am not the Creator and I am not God, so I leave the judging to Him.

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  • Corinna
    Mar 18, 2010
    Mar 18, 2010

    I definitely agree. I don't know if we are even judged by a god because we are given the life that we are given for a reason; we go through our individual struggles for a reason. In today's world is as though we subconsciously feed off of others' ways of life and what we think is wrong. There should be no judging period, but yes upon yourself and that you're leading life in truth.

    Cheers and thanks Corinna

  • Ada Ngoh
    Mar 19, 2010
    Mar 19, 2010

    I wish more people thought like this, especially in my country. Thank you for your comment.

  • Umme Mahbuba
    Mar 19, 2010
    Mar 19, 2010

    Hi Dear Nelly, I agree with you points and your strong argument. Now the time to think about this matter liberally and support the right of the gay and lesbians. In my country Bangladesh this is a social stigma and people do not talk about it, but how long? how long people will hid this matter? They are also the creation of god and if you love our god we have to love them too. We should talk about this matter more and try to help the lesbian and gay people form STDs, social ignorance and psychological problems like suicide and frustration. I am looking forward to here more from you about this issue. Thank You, Umme Mahbuba.