Mt. Gaurishankar
  • Mt. Gaurishankar
  • 'Hamro' mission group in the school of our girls toilet project

Going to school was tough at that time due to the cold temperatures. Snowy in the winter season, there were hardly very hot temperatures even in the summer. This mountain area called Dolakha is where I was born. I developed my first crush on one of the mountains called Mt. Gaurishankar on a beautiful morning when the sunshine kissed the mountain and it glowed like heaven as I had heard in legendary stories about it. Named after the Gauri-goddess and Shankar-god from the Hindu religion, climbing this mountain is prohibited because of religious beliefs and respect. But every time I went close to the mountain or saw its heavenly view, I imagined hugging it.

Imaginations and dreams were part of my life when I was growing up. However, as I got older, I noticed changes occurring in my body and this was a very weird experience for me. It was shameful for me to ask my parents about these physical changes and even my mom never told me exactly what would happen in my body as I matured. Back then, our culture didn’t allow us to talk freely about physical bodily changes, or reproductive or sexual health; even now, the custom remains in my country.

Due to cold my cheeks were redder than usual on this particular day; I was 12 at the time. Feeling some strange pain in my belly, I also felt like my underwear smelled. I still remember this day! I was wearing yellow underwear and later at home, I observed a red color on them. At first, I thought it was a stain I may have gotten while playing. Then I started thinking bad thoughts—maybe I had stomach cancer or an intestinal wound and maybe it would cause death. I was trembling with fear seeing strange things in my life. I couldn’t be sure that it was menstruation because our woman elders used to say, “Nachhhunu bhayapachhi nidharma tika lagchha.” This means we get a mark on our forehead when we have our first menstruation. I didn’t see any mark on my forehead. To this day, I am not sure why they say it like that. I was too afraid to tell my mom so I wore three trousers and went to school. The whole day I was nervous thinking of the heavy bleeding. I didn’t know anything about menstruation, except that my mom would not touch anything for five days each month.

The Nepali word for menstruation is nachhunu which means untouchable. It means while we are menstruating, we are considered untouchable or impure for five days and everything we touch becomes impure. When we have our first menstruation, we are not allowed to touch any males (including our father and brothers) and are not allowed to enter the kitchen or prayer rooms for 22 days. We also have to use separate utensils. Further, looking in the mirror during menstruation is considered bad luck. Our culture has the superstitious belief that menstruation is the punishment of sins from our previous lives.

So when our house maid noticed the blood on my dress after I came home from school, she immediately told my mom. They packed some of my dresses and told my dad to go out of house so that I couldn’t see him. I went with our house maid to her home which was approximately 1 ½ hours away. While there, I was given a dark room with no sunlight and given one plate and glass to use for eating. People said to me, “timi aba thuli bhayau” which means now I am grown up. Ohh! Now, grown up means I had to be careful from then on not to play with male friends, not to stay out too long, not to go out often or at all. I used to cry when I was alone for being grown up—all coming from this one simple, natural physical change in my body. I hated that blood which made this sudden change.

At the time, I had to use rags because I didn’t even know there were things like sanitary pads. Using rags was unhygienic and I was also unaware of how to wash them carefully. Days were so hard; all of the restrictions were the worst part. On “those days,” I was kept away from school and feared what questions my friends and teachers would ask. I saw many of my friends miss school during their menstrual periods; I also saw some friends get married after they started menstruating because they were now considered “grown up” in my culture.

I was supposed to stay away from my home for 12 days but luckily my mom allowed me to come back on the seventh day. That day, I was given new cloths and new things. I entered our home after they sprinkled gold water (they put gold in water, as it is believed to be pure). I was told that I shouldn’t touch my dad for 22 days. This was extremely challenging because I was always “Daddy’s Little Girl” and couldn’t imagine not talking to or hugging my dad. I cried a lot and hated being grown up. Many people stared at me and scolded me, telling me it was a sin. This depressed me for a long time after that.

DISTRICT REPORT; According to the Monthly Monitoring and Annual Performance Review Worksheet for 2008 through 2009/10 in Dolakha, the estimated target population for health service use was 224,982; the actual users were 235,674, including immigrated people. Female health service takers are increasing by 2-4% per day which can be considered as the awareness of more health problems. Out of which, in the year 2009-10, there was an average 96 cases of menstruation disorder (in married and unmarried women) per month in the district primary health center of Dolakha.

There is minimal promotional health service through advertisement in TV, Radio, and Newspapers. It includes some information on major diseases but it doesn’t include any awareness on menstruation hygiene. Hygienic practices during menstruation are of considerable importance as it has health impacts in terms of increased exposure to various infections. Due to lack of awareness, hygiene is neglected by girls, especially in the rural areas. The renowned INGO Water Aid is one of the major organizations working on awareness of sanitation including menstruation hygiene.

SURVEY; According to a 2009 survey by Water Aid, the key reasons girls were absent while menstruating was a lack of privacy, unavailability of sanitary disposal facilities and water shortages. They are also seen to avoid going to toilets during menstruation as most schools do not have separate latrines for girls and most of them have missed school during menstruation. According to Ministry of Education and Sports (MOES), only 41% of schools in Nepal have latrine facilities with only 26% of schools having separate latrine for girls. To avoid humiliation, especially teasing by school boys, the girls would rather stay at home. This is one of the reasons why they lose interest in going to school and have poor performance results in school. One of the studies has indicated that girls are also likely to get depressed during their first menstruation.

The primary health education is included from class 1 to class 10 in the new study course. There is a subject called “Science, Environment and Health” in class 1-5 and after that there is subject called “Population, Health and Environment.” (This course is not enough for the complete knowledge on basic reproductive health. Though there are some chapters about the reproductive health, due to the new course and untrained teachers it has been ineffective. Also, the girls are too shy to ask about this and teachers themselves do not teach about it clearly due to our cultural barriers. And gender biases still exist in some of the schools in rural areas.

According to Govinda Raj Sedhai, secretary of District Education Office in Dolakha, the education ministry is bringing a new literacy program to adults. These adult/elders literacy classes will include three days of health education which may help woman to know about their menstruation and reproductive health, too.

NATIONAL HEALTH POLICY—the NHP was adopted in 1991 to bring about improvements in health conditions of the people of Nepal through extending access and availability of the primary health care system. The primary objective of NHP is to extend the primary health care system to the rural population so that they benefit from modern facilities and the services provided by trained health care providers. Under the government, there are three kinds of health services: 1) preventive 2) promotional and 3) curative health services. Menstruation hygiene falls under the category of preventive and promotional health.

GLOBAL VIEW; in total, women spend around six to seven years of their lives menstruating. A key priority for women and girls is to have the necessary knowledge, facilities and cultural environment to manage menstruation hygienically and with dignity. Yet, the importance of menstrual hygiene management is mostly neglected by development practitioners within the water, sanitation and hygiene sector, and other related sectors such as reproductive health.In many countries like Nepal, women are considered to be “impure” during their menstrual cycle. They are prohibited to take part in social life and are treated as “untouchable” during their menstrual cycle. But the truth is menstruation is a natural phenomenon that should be celebrated and an important part of the feminine journey. We talk about girls’ education and their rights to education. And when we talk about girls’ education, we cannot focus only on scholarships or building toilets. We need an integrative approach that involves gender sensitivity among teachers and programs educating mothers on the impact menstruation has on young girls.

There are many cultures in Nepal. Some of them treat menstruation in a good way and some of them treat it as if it is a big curse(more in the eastern part). The majority of girls learn about menstruation from their mothers, sisters and girl friends but what happens when they don’t know about menstruation hygiene? And what happens when they have knowledge, but they lack proper facilities for their hygiene? As a result, some of them suffer from depression and some get various infections. Many girls prefer to stay home during this time, which leads to their poor school performance.

My parents were unaware of this and I am sure they didn’t do it intentionally. But I had to aware them about it so my younger sisters didn’t pass through the same condition. And I am spreading awareness on the same through rotaract. I am proud to be in Rotaract(sponsored by rotary club of Charumati) and one of our recent projects was a Girls Toilet Project for which I am a coordinator, funded by the Matilda Bay-Australia Rotary Club. We have completed the project and I am currently working voluntarily in that school to raise awareness on menstruation hygiene, as well as other basic teenage problems. This is the first step of a big mission of mine! I am still learning and seeking new ways and ideas to include both genders. And I am happy that young girls don’t have to suffer in the same way I did in my early days of menstruation.

It depends upon how different cultures practice menstrual hygiene. But it is a very important part of health education like other major health issues without which woman empowerment is incomplete. It’s only possible to increase menstruation hygiene when not only health officers but teachers and parents play a vital role in transmitting a message of proper menstrual hygiene. This wouldn’t only save girls from many health hazards but would break the barrier to their regular school attendance. And we can play a most significant role through communicating with each other to create safe menstrual hygiene in our families and in our communities. This is where the woman empowerment begins…

This article is part of a writing assignment for Voices of Our Future, which is providing rigorous web 2.0 and new media training for 31 emerging women leaders. We are speaking out for social change from some of the most unheard from corners of the world.

Take action! This post was submitted in response to Voices of Our Future 2011 Assignment: Frontline Journals.

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Hi Nilima,

Congratulations with your final one! It is so wonderful - great writing including the red tent.

Love, Sarvina

Regards, Sarvina from Cambodia VOF 2011 Correspondent

Yes, you are right, sister, what is awareness if nothing is done about it. What use is anything you know about if it is not reinforced with action. Learning and doing begins at home, of course. As you aptly stated, "And we can play a most significant role through communicating with each other to create safe menstrual hygiene in our families and in our communities." All the best...

Always, Emie Zozobrado

WOW, what a great compliment:) really i feel great to read this. thank you so much and i tell you one thing i am a star because i have star friends all around me like you!

lots of love:)


Nilima from Nepal

Wow!! what a great work you did chhori!! I got flash back of my days too. Not allowing for seeing and touching dad /brothers was really a painful and me too cried a lot but blind society did not see our pain.

Just an hour before I read a news that a woman died in Chhaupadi( A secluded shed built for woman to stay during menstruation).As you too know well, Chhaupadi the most brutal and scary costum is still alive in far western region of our country.Due to lack of awareness and education Chhaupadi killing many woman during menstruation. We most raise our voice against it.

I wish you that always go a head and achieve your goal!

thank you so much for your appreciation. I must say this writing has made to remember the experience that we had in our early age, and i am sure it has made us to think in the ground level development.

I am sorry to hear that news, do you have that news link? where did you read that news? i want to read that news.

and thank you so much for your valuable time on reading this journal.




Nilima from Nepal

Dear sister Nilima,

You have done a great job. I like so much your final post: the name of the title, the supporting pictures, of course your narrative and solution-oriented writing with appropriate background information on different level: local, national and global. Awesome!

Thanks also for writing such a topic which must be really heard. I learned a lot from your post.

Best regards, Insha Allah

Shwe Wutt Hmon

Hi Insha,

thank you so much and i would love to hear your experiences some day when you have time. nothing can teach us better than the experiences we share!

a big hug with love:)


Nilima from Nepal

Dear sister,

It's a very good idea. I am very glad to chat, write and share more with my VOF sister. Do you know my Email? Otherwise, you can send messages to our WorldPulse inbox.

Best regards, Insha

Shwe Wutt Hmon

thank you insha! i will be sharing the link of the group to share the menstruation experience!

thank you so much


Nilima from Nepal

Dear sister,

Thanks and I am waiting to read what you would share and I will also share interesting and useful resources via facebook or here, in WorldPulse.

Best regards, Insha

Shwe Wutt Hmon

Hi Nilima, This is such an important issue to share with women and men throughout the world. Thank you for sharing your personal experience with us and for making a difference! I wish you all the best with the Girls Toilet Project. Sincerely, Lisa

Hi lisa,

thank you so much for your time here on my post. Your time here and comments / suggestions makes diffrence in my life, it inspires me and encourage me to go ahead!

thank you so much


Nilima from Nepal

Hey Nilima,

Thank you for sharing this. It reminds me of a poem I once read called Udaylee about a women's experience of being made to feel unclean during her menstrual cycle. It was by an Indian poet, I think...

I am working on a newsletter for young women in southern Africa and we are actually looking for a feature on menstruation. Would you let us use this piece please?!!!!! If you give me your email address, I will send you some more information about it.

Your sister Fungai

from today i live out of my imagination i am more than my yesterday tomorrow i plant a new seed nothing that lies behind easy nothing that is ahead real my within is all i have today Napo Masheane

dear fungai,

i am honored that you thought of my piece to use it in ur newsletter.

check ur inbox, will be sending the details there!


Nilima from Nepal

Dear Nilima,

I love how you have told your own story, and in doing so, have told the story of so many women worldwide. It broke my heart when you wrote about your sadness of not being able to hug your dad! I'm sure that he felt sadness too in being disconnected from you... and that's the trouble, men aren't benefiting from these traditional practices really either. I'm glad that you helped make it a bit better for your younger sisters.

It's so wonderful to see that you're already in ACTION to make a change. I love that! Keep up the great work!

Best, Scott

Scott Beck

Dear Scott,

Thank you so much for your time on my post! Yes if VOF wouldnt be there i may not have been writing all these things which could be learning lesson for many others! VOF had been the great platform to raise my voice which may have been disappeared somewhere if i had nt found pulse wire!

Thanx so much!


Nilima from Nepal

hey nilima you are awesome we all should be more like u and do things like this in our communities your story is really inspiring and what you do is great! you go girl!

pawani India

Thank you so much pawani and my dream to work for this cause wouldnt be possible if i was not the member of rotaract :)

thank you so much


Nilima from Nepal

Congrats Nilima! It's good that you brought out this important issue to the forefront for the readers all over the world. Atleast they can have some idea at the practices that are still prevalent in Nepal in this century.

Keep writing.

Regards, Shristi

Thank you shristi:)

yes the things like chhaupadi has to be in the international media to eliminate this tradition and practice the safe menstruation hygiene!

thank you so much:)


Nilima from Nepal

Thank you Nilima,

This is a very powerful and informative article. Thank you for sharing your story and being the brave warrior and taking a stand to empower and eductae others on this subject. Women like yourself play an important role on this universe. I know for sure there are several young girls and women that you have inspired and encouraged along the way but yet there are so many more just waiting for your voice to reach them. I would like to share your voice on my Blog... its a place for women to share stories with other women. A place for us to inspire and empower one another. A tool that we can use to bring awareness and eductae others about what is happening in this world, to women, with women and for women. Your Red Tent story is inspiring, it shows courage and determination for change and growth. I admire your courage and tenacity to share your voice with the world.

With your permission i would like to add it as soon as possible. This month is Womens Hitsory month and i would love to showcase your writing and voice. I would also include a note that you are accepting donation for your next endeavor... The womens conference.

Love and light, Mia

It feels great to receive your comments on my posts regularly and i find that you are guiding me and encouraging me every time you write to me. I feel honored to receive your comments and appreciation for my work. Yes it feels great when someone is inspired by my words and work! And it may be helpful if it is heard by many so that this issue could be solved.

Thank you for sharing my story in your blog,it looks great! its a great support:) And i am also hopeful to get some help for my trip to attend the one young world conference too through this.

And please just put this note just below the article that - This article is part of a writing assignment for Voices of Our Future(

Thank you so much once again:)


Nilima from Nepal