A personal lesson in finding solutions...

Posted January 7, 2014 from South Africa

Just days into the new year, several acts of violence against women and children have been reported in South Africa. This morning we woke up to the headline news of four-year old Jasmin Lee Pretorius. She was raped and murdered by her 23-year-old uncle late last year. He shoved her little body under a bed.

People flooded the court at the court appearance yesterday, most of who were children. The National Prosecuting Authority believes it has a strong case. We are seeking the maximum sentence for the crime.

Childline, an organisation that deals with children in dangerous situations, have released the following facts about child abuse: - One in four children in South Africa will be abused some time in their childhood. - Just as many boys as girls under the age of 10 years are sexually abused. - 80% of the offenders of sexual abuse are well known to, and trusted by, the child (a family member, neighbour, teacher, parent or caregiver). - Sexual abuse usually happens in a familiar environment where the offender has complete control (his/her car, a classroom). - If a child is believed and given the appropriate support by their parents/caregivers when the abuse is discovered, they have a positive chance of recovery.

I pray that domestic violence in South Africa, and the world, will be uprooted. I applaud all the non-profit organisations who work tirelessly to be the voices for those in need and provide safety in unsafe situations.

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  • Cali gal Michelle
    Jan 08, 2014
    Jan 08, 2014


    Reports such as these are disturbing and a reminder that this violence is real. Domestic violence seems to be, unfortunately, not confined to a singular region or country. It is pervasive. If you could, how would you begin to change attitudes, behaviors, or laws regarding domestic violence?

    There is a gender-based-violence group page you may be interested in joining, if you haven't already. Also, be sure to visit the topic page for resources, headlines, and other stories: http://worldpulse.com/hub/topic/gender-based-violence

    All the best to you!

  • PrincessLala
    Jan 08, 2014
    Jan 08, 2014

    I wish to apologise for posting a disturbing report. And thank you for encouraging hope and solution-driven thought and action. Thank you for information about the dedicated group.

    Some time ago, I met with a dynamic woman who uses colour therapy to inspire change and healing with women who have a myriad of ailments or who have experienced some form of trauma. She distributes a prayer/mantra/affirmation which calls for creative solutions.

    You've just reminded me of how important it is for us to seek and discover the solutions to all situations, especially those that seem dire.

    Fortunately, we have many government and non-government groups and initiatives who work with offenders and victims. I have been lucky to work with a few of these. Right now, it is my deepest desire to work closely with groups who serve to empower the women, mothers of domestic violence. I feel that she is the "heart" of the home and the community and when she is empowered, something beautiful happens.

    Here's to creative solutions!

    Light and love, L

  • Cali gal Michelle
    Jan 09, 2014
    Jan 09, 2014

    L- Never apologize for what truth is written from the heart. It is these stories that remind us that work is left to be done. It is women such as yourself who show us courage and determination to keep pushing on.

    I look forward to seeing you around the WP community!