Motherhood

I wishWriting Motherhoodhad been around when I was a new mom. Women deserve to own and record their words.Writing Motherhood—honest, practical and inspiring—helps us overcome our fears and unlock the thoughts and feelings we all have inside.

I was a writer long before I became a mother, but in 2011, with the birth of my Son, Arav, my writing self changed with the emergence of my mother self. I exploded with energy and creativity—and new material. I wrote about Arav often, and he remains a source of inspiration. By 2011, a mother of one children under the age of 28, I wrote in any spots I could find (haven’t we all tried to escape to a closet?), sometimes for only fifteen minutes at a clip. My writing became as primal to me as my desire to have children had been. My view of the world was forever changed; I looked at every situation and everything I read through my mother self.

I have personally always coslept with my son, Arav(6years old). Let me start by stating that my husband and I have never “literally slept together” in the same bed more than a handful of times. I like a more dark, quiet sleeping environment and he’s the type that needs to fall asleep with the TV on. For that reason we both have our own sleeping quarters and it works for us.

A goodmotheris obligated to care for her family and put them before al else. The ideal living environment that amothercan provide for her children is a warm caring home. … In my opinion, themotherfigure plays the most vitalrolein a child’slifebecause she is the mostimportant rolemodel for the child.

As long as I can remember, my mother has been there for me. She took care of me when I was little like all good mothers do, but the relationship that we had as I got older is actually more important to me. As a child,
I took the fact that my mother is there completely for granted. Most children do. Growing up was made easier by her love and concern, however, and now that I am no longer a child, I have a relationship with my mother that many people have with their closest friends. The meaning of this is beyond words, because I know that this is somewhat rare in a society where children grow up and move on, instead of staying close to their families. While this is a generalization, it seems that it is happening more and more often today and the trend will continue.
Children who grow up and are not friends with their parents do not realize how much they are missing by neglecting this relationship. I realize there are some, because of abuse or other factors, where this relationship will never be, but most of these relationships do not happen simply because there is no effort made. I would not be who I am today ifit were not for this friendship with my mother. She did all of the righ…