VOF Week 4- (“Would like to have a full face”)

sabiha nazli
Posted April 13, 2009 from Pakistan


I would like to change the women life and give our self a full face, because I think we are living our lives but with half liberty and control on our body. We could not even take a decision about when and how many children we want. In my opinion the body is ours not the others who are taking the decision when we have to bring a new life and have sex. Do not have the liberty to enjoy sex on our demands. In some ways, most of us become a working machine who works for others satisfaction not for ours.

In Pakistan rural areas, if a woman wants to go anywhere even at doctor’s clinic she has to be accompanied by any male even a 5 – 10 years child could give her protection. Therefore, for our fellow citizens I would like to give an identity, a status, and individuality. A space where she could relax, a place where she could think about her self and involve her in some creative activities which she would like to do or she could have a freedom to express herself in a way she likes to do.

I would like to change a phrase mostly used in our society that “be brave and courageous like a man” What do you all think about this change? I think, it is the change we need to make because we are the creatures who give birth to the next generation or in other words who are responsible for the creation of a new life circle. On this behalf, we could demand an assistance ship of God. I am talking in this scenario, because last week my sister gave birth to a girl child. At that time, when I saw her in pain and realized her courage I thought what a painful process we all passed and still blamed as weak and coward creature of the world.

If you read my previous journals then you could realize that how this World pulse changes my life and me. It gives me new ways of thinking, it pushed me to think about my self and have the liberty to enjoy my self by taking out some silent moments. It also pushes to take steps to discover ourselves.

Therefore, in the way I am getting too much from world pulse, I got words to say and many more things, which I could not mention. It empowered me a lot but I still need more improvement, which in turn I will use to bring changes in others life.

When I am writing a journal, I do not have any fear. I am writing in a way of loud thinking. I do not know how you all will take this but if I become a bit louder then I would like to sorry in anticipation.

Sorry I have much more to write but nowadays we as an organization busy in a training of master trainers so If I could not reply any mail then please give me margin in this reference . I will be able to respond you all after 21st April. See you then and looking forward to hear who the winners are.

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  • Leila Okeyo
    Apr 13, 2009
    Apr 13, 2009

    Everybody is important in the society.We all take part to make our societies successful,so men and women should be equal.

    Love from Leila.

  • JCalbery
    Apr 18, 2009
    Apr 18, 2009

    I really enjoyed your post and reading about your visions! I think that you raised many important points about women's rights, identity, status, and in particular, I liked that you included this quote: “be brave and courageous like a man”. In including this quote you have raised an important issue of language and women's rights - I think that we very easily forget or don't pay attention to some language and phrases and then phrases such as these become or remain common in our societies. So, thank you for this reminder!

    You are inspiring to all of us as you have learned more about yourself and are exercising your voice! I truly hope that you will continue to share with us your "loud thoughts"!


  • Jade Frank
    Apr 20, 2009
    Apr 20, 2009

    Hi Sabiha,

    Your writing is so descriptive and captivating. I hear your voice clearly and am encouraged by your vision. Please do not apologize for your "loud" voice. This is the voice that I and your fellow members on PulseWire have become so fond of. You are an inspiration!

    Warm regards, Jade

  • Gemma
    Apr 21, 2009
    Apr 21, 2009


    Thank you for writing such a beautiful essay. I am thrilled that the writing you have done, and your interaction with the Pulsewire community has given you new ways of thinking. The quote you reference "be brave and courageous like a man" demonstrates how gender bias seeps into our language. It is also inaccurate. I meet women every day who are strong and courageous both physically and emotionally. They give birth, maintain relationships and raise children. They work continuously for the benefit of their offspring and often think little of themselves. Collectively, we must demonstrate that the statement in inaccurate and we must also change the perception it creates and the message that it sends to our daughters.

    This community is a great place to speak as loud as possible. Put your ideas out and let them be heard by women who support you, understand you and like you, are using their voice.



  • sabiha nazli
    Apr 21, 2009
    Apr 21, 2009

    Dear All,

    I'm back in office and really desperate to contact you all. I would like to thank you all for such encouraging responses which allow me to continue my loud thinking.