Introducing myself and my journal: Redevelop Single mothers and their children

About Me:
Ready in psychology ( The characteristic I do apply in my life)

Mature Leadership
As leader, I will have the maturity to accept people just as they are, work with them, and help them to see and recognize role model as the perfect example. Such maturity is achieved by getting out of your own world and trying to understand others—
not expecting others to conform to your views, but accepting and appreciating those contributions that each member can bring to the group.

Know Others
Leaders must know the circumstances of life that have caused people to act and to be as they are. The saying “You can’t please everybody” is not license to mistreat or offend those who do not think and act as we do. We must have an open mind to accept and work together those who do not always agree with our views. If others don’t understand as we do, we must pray that through example and precept they will be lifted to a higher plane of understanding. Leaders must realize that they are not working with perfect people, that many can say, “Be patient with me. Allah is not finished with me yet.” And allow development of character modeled after role model.

Know Yourself
Knowledge of self is the ability to know that one is growing and changing. The saying, “This is the way I am, and no one can change me.” should never be part of the vocabulary of a leader, rather his or her prayer should be, “By Allah’s grace, I can become like Him. I can grow. I can learn to treat others well and not be misled by their weaknesses.”

Leadership
Those who can recognize their own weaknesses are strong. Knowing ourselves will help us to apply the golden rule.

Have and Demonstrate Interest in Others
We all have our own world, but sometimes we must leave our world so that we can see things from the other side, making an effort to understand how others think. Do not look for, nor interest yourself in, the weaknesses of others. If we dedicate ourselves to look for weaknesses, we will find so many that we will become discouraged. The only one who concentrates on the weaknesses of others is the one who is a failure. It is said that “he who has failed in everything, is successful as a critic.” He who seeks to know the weaknesses of others is to accuse them and be judgmental. Remember, when you point a finger at someone accusingly—your other fingers are pointing back at you. It is good to look for the virtues in others and magnify them, elevating them to a more excellent plane. Such an attitude will lift the discouraged. One problem that exists among people is a lack of self-esteem.

Ready in psychology ( The characteristic I do apply in my life)

Mature Leadership
As leader, I will have the maturity to accept people just as they are, work with them, and help them to see and recognize role model as the perfect example. Such maturity is achieved by getting out of your own world and trying to understand others—
not expecting others to conform to your views, but accepting and appreciating those contributions that each member can bring to the group.

Know Others
Leaders must know the circumstances of life that have caused people to act and to be as they are. The saying “You can’t please everybody” is not license to mistreat or offend those who do not think and act as we do. We must have an open mind to accept and work together those who do not always agree with our views. If others don’t understand as we do, we must pray that through example and precept they will be lifted to a higher plane of understanding. Leaders must realize that they are not working with perfect people, that many can say, “Be patient with me. Allah is not finished with me yet.” And allow development of character modeled after role model.

Know Yourself
Knowledge of self is the ability to know that one is growing and changing. The saying, “This is the way I am, and no one can change me.” should never be part of the vocabulary of a leader, rather his or her prayer should be, “By Allah’s grace, I can become like Him. I can grow. I can learn to treat others well and not be misled by their weaknesses.”

Leadership
Those who can recognize their own weaknesses are strong. Knowing ourselves will help us to apply the golden rule.

Have and Demonstrate Interest in Others
We all have our own world, but sometimes we must leave our world so that we can see things from the other side, making an effort to understand how others think. Do not look for, nor interest yourself in, the weaknesses of others. If we dedicate ourselves to look for weaknesses, we will find so many that we will become discouraged. The only one who concentrates on the weaknesses of others is the one who is a failure. It is said that “he who has failed in everything, is successful as a critic.” He who seeks to know the weaknesses of others is to accuse them and be judgmental. Remember, when you point a finger at someone accusingly—your other fingers are pointing back at you. It is good to look for the virtues in others and magnify them, elevating them to a more excellent plane. Such an attitude will lift the discouraged. One problem that exists among people is a lack of self-esteem.

The people
leader can do much to help build confidence and self-worth in each individual. It is said that even a broken watch is accurate two times a day (when it shows the correct time). Even the most negative person has some good that must be discovered. Always look for the good in others.

Demonstrate Genuine Courtesy
True courtesy makes no exception of persons. The leader does not pretend, but under all circumstances will demonstrate true courtesy to all—“the courtesy that springs from real kindness of heart” .

Always Be Ready to Help
Islamic practice came to serve, and not to be served. He is our example in everything. The true leader will always be ready to serve, to help the person whom society considers most humble.

Make Others Feel Comfortable
We naturally choose our friends from among those who make us feel good and comfortable. The leader has to learn, however, to live with the strident voices of some youth, and though it may be difficult, he or she will do all that is possible in good conscience to create an environment where free expression can be practiced. All group members must feel free to speak even though their views may differ with others. They must feel accepted and appreciated and wanted. Do not complain of difficulties and problems.

Be Tactful
When we deal with others, we should do so with kindness, courtesy, and tact. It is better to ask them to tell, to listen than to accuse, to focus on the problem, not the person. By asking questions rather than “pointing fingers,” help the other person recognize the real problem, then seek solutions together. Avoid trying to “blame” someone. What is done, is done.

Seek ways to avoid the problem in the future.
Ask; “What can we do so this does not happen again?
How can we avoid this in the future?”

Know the Temperament of Others
We must recognize that most people have bad days. Different situations may cause a temporary change in the emotions of others. For example:
 Home problems
 School problems
 Work problems
 Personal problems
The leader should know how to relate to these situations, recognizing that by modeling he or she can help group members learn to be patient, longsuffering and accepting.

Leadership Qualities Most Desired by Youth
Of the scores of leadership attributes appreciated and desired by most youth, four almost always surface as the favored qualities and are usually given in the following order:
1. Understanding
2. Spirituality
3. Knowledgeability
4. Personality and emotional maturity

My Passions:
Woman advocator

My Challenges:
To educate man to respect and care about woman

My Vision for the Future:
Single Mother will be succeed in their career

My Areas of Expertise:
Asian