Never Stop Dreaming

Sherna Alexander Benjamin
Posted October 24, 2014 from Trinidad and Tobago

Never Give Up on Your Dreams

Seven years ago when I began this journey of being a Victims Advocate, I had many goals, some I have seen developed and others are still in the making. I thought this road would of been an easy one, however I clearly misjudged this path for many in society make it harder for the victim to break their silence and for the survivors to thrive.

One of the main goals which I penned back then was the establishment of a first world center for victims of abuse which does not only work as a safe space and place but also as a holistic training center for victims of abuse and their hurting families. And to help where we can to alleviate poverty and hunger.

As I did a second site visit to Matura yesterday It dawned on me that the goal will be realized and I felt unworthy, thanks to the partnership with a US elected official, Ex-Marine and a native of this soil who will be doing some great work in Trinidad and Tobago with his foundation. We shall do an official announcement in the coming weeks on our page.

Whatever your dreams may be, NEVER STOP DREAMING even when you do not see a way of it coming to pass, even when others laugh at you and call you foolish and even when many say to you "You now start you want to change the world, relax" Even when sever test and obstacles arise once its your life's purpose the Creator will always send people of like minds and passion to just give you a start and he will do the rest.

Many times I felt like giving up and forgetting about advocacy and helping, many times I felt and still feel misunderstood by many for my passion to help, guess its only those who feel it can truly understand why survivours PUSH so much. Only those who have experienced the pangs of hunger and the torment of seeing others eat while you watch as a way of punishment can truly know the pains of hunger which a child experiences.

I depleted all and everything I have for this cause guess some may say that's a hell of a sacrifice and I rather sacrifice even myself to save another human being from the evil sting of abuse, domestic violence and pain than to sit by and do nothing. I rather sacrifice than see or hear the cries of a child in hunger.

I sank in depression doing this work as the cases and victims would reach out giving heart wrenching details of their abuse which they prefer no man knows for fear of judgments and being labeled however they are silently seeking help. Every time I said this was it something would arise which called for me to dig deep to push myself to help.

I realize that I cannot run from my destiny for it is in my DNA, I was molded for this purpose, fashioned by the acts of cruel violence and framed by the ignorance of society, Its in my blood and despite all the challenges I now stand to embrace my calling.

The journey has now begun on a next threader of the ladder of Advocacy and I know there will be great challenges to overcome but I also see great blessings, positive energy, and great support.

to all those who stood with me in my madness because sanity clearly never works at times I say thank you. To those who supported us and still do thank you.

Never stop dreaming.

Comments 4

  • Ashley Turner
    Oct 24, 2014
    Oct 24, 2014

    I want to take a moment and thank you for this post. I am in a similar boat. I am in the job search process post graduate school and it has been a whirl win of emotions. I have been so exhausted from sending out countless job applications, attending dozens of informational interviews, paying for resume services, interning and volunteering hundreds of hours at local non-profits to no avail. I've been in this journey since february of this year and I will say that these past eight, going on nine months, have been some of the hardest of my life. Very often I wonder if it will ever happen for me. And I will admit, sometimes I want to quit on this dream and pursue something easier and safer. BUT like you, I can't. It's in me to do the work I am pursuing. I'm committed to making an impact and I know that eventually my path will be known.

    I commend you on the very important work you are doing that at times probably feels thankless. Please don't loose faith. You are surely making an impact, whether it feels like it or not.

    Thank you, Ashley

  • Sherna Alexander Benjamin
    Oct 27, 2014
    Oct 27, 2014

    While we walk this path we meet with various challenges how we approach those challenges makes the difference, it is quite ok to feel down and tired of the fight at times but we must never give up the vision though it tarry we shall wait for it.

    Thank you for your encouraging words and I say to you, never give up the fight, never lose sight of the dream and never lose hope.

    Thank you, Sherna

  • Lisa Anderson
    Oct 27, 2014
    Oct 27, 2014


    I appreciate your tenacious spirit and can tell it serves you well as an advocate. Your acknowledgment of past struggles paired with your positive outlook for the future is so human and relatable.

    Shine on! Lisa

  • Sherna Alexander Benjamin
    Oct 27, 2014
    Oct 27, 2014

    Thank you very much for your kind words, I try to show the real face of abuse the face which may in the world do not wish to see and which many victims are afraid to show because of fear of judgement. Thank you for your kind words once again. May our voices unite in lifting broken humanity.

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