J'ai vu un foyer là où le mari etait prostituer mais sa femme etait sage,après un temps la femme tombe malade ,arriver à l'hopital pour se faire soigner ,la femme etait déja atteinte,en donnant le resultat à son mari ,il a commencé de querelle et lui dire qu'il n'est réconné pas ça jusqu'à la chassée de sa maison avec 7 enfants pour se rémarié avec une fille innonçante.Enfin de conte cette femme souffre avec ses malheureux enfants

English translation by PulseWire member Annie Theriault

Violence against women’s rights

In one home, the husband engaged in prostitution, but the wife did not. After some time, the woman became ill. At the hospital, she is informed that she [has HIV]. When she tells her husband, he picks a fight and kicks her out of the home with their seven children. He remarries with an innocent girl and the woman continues to suffer with her unhappy children.

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Violence against women’s rights

In one home, the husband engaged in prostitution, but the wife did not. After some time, the woman became ill. At the hospital, she is informed that she [has HIV]. When she tells her husband, he picks a fight and kicks her out of the home with their seven children. He remarries with an innocent girl and the woman continues to suffer with her unhappy children.

Dear Sibata, This is a sad story and one that sadly we hear of often. There is so much more I want to learn. Did the husband know the risks of infection before passing HIV onto his wife? Was barrier contraception available to him to prevent the transmission of this disease? Was he aware that he was the person who had infected his wife in the first place, before he kicked her out of the house? If so, and he was knowingly engaging in behavior that put himself and his wife at risk then there is a social problem that allows this kind of behaviour to persist against women. Where are her rights, where are the rights of their children? Also, what of the second girl he marries, won't she get infected now too? I hope very much that laws will be passed that can prevent this from happening again to many more women in your country, Thanks for sharing your story and letting us know of this lack of women's rights in your country. By speaking up and out against these acts, you are making an important step toward change for the betterment of women. Blessings Tina

Dear Sibatu,

what you describe is very sadly being played out in many other places, including my own country. I see multiple problems in your short testimony. There is a vulnerability to venereal diseases, lack of access to birth control, no rights to property developed in marriage and forced teenage marriages, among others.

I would have loved to hear more from you on how the society deals with these issues, whether anyone can help and the way forward from here.

Thank you for sharing this.

Dear sibatu, than you for taking the time to write this. first i pity that man for throwing his family just like that....men for the many i have seen and for time immemorial have played this card on women and now added their children to this list!...they can do all the running a round and bring all kinds of diseases to unsuspecting wives..bad, any way you mentioned 7 children? which brings me to the question of birth control family planning?, how accessible are these to women in your locality? Also how much do you know this lady..she is vulnerable and needs all the help she can get..it may not be financial but emotional, some one to talk to and to encourage her to seek counseling and access to ARVs for better health.....living with HIV can be scary especially if you have no one to help you out but its also not the end of the world...its what i told an aunt of mine and now she lives a happy life. you do understand the burden she faces with the children and now her health? also if you have offices in charge of children problems, may be this man could be brought in for the children are his too. in uganda a probation officers is in charge and men have been made to take care of their children or face the law..i hope its the case in your country,...is it...am hoping. take care topie Alupo