Written for Being Single Magazine Online

Sister Keepers:

Are You One?

By Sonia Jackson Myles, Founder of The Sister Accord www.thesisteraccord.com

It would be hard for me to imagine a workplace without other women to talk to or enjoy lunch with. We can sometimes take these relationships for granted and not understand how blessed we are to have “Sisters” in our lives. I founded “The Sister Accord, The Promise That Will Transform Your Life!” to remind women of three things:

(1) The importance of giving love and getting it in return

(2) The importance of treating our sisters like the rare, precious gems they are.

(3) The power of living a life that is balanced and fulfilled physically, mentally and spiritually through strong relationships with other women.

If you are “Keeping Your Sister” and taking good care to nurture your relationships, love will be at the center of all of your thoughts, words, and deeds. If you love your sister, you will ensure that your every action towards her will do good and not harm. As The Sister Accord states, your every encounter should be uplifting. Who wants be around negative people who drain and suck the life out of you with every conversation? If you are determined to “Keep your Sister,” you will give her love each and every day.

Remember the three E’s: Engagement, Encouragement, and Enlightenment.

Engagement…If you love your sister, you will find time to talk to her, time to listen to her, time to just “be” with her. Engaging your sister shows that you love her. If you love your sister, you will encourage her and lift her up when she’s feeling down. You will be the wind beneath her wings, giving her energy to face her fears with courage and strength.

Encouraging your sister shows that you love her. If you love your sister, you will share your knowledge of all that is good. You will connect her with other good people who will continue to build her network and skills. Enlightenment and constructive conversations will show your sister that you love her. Love is a two way street ~ you have to give it to get it!

Do you have emeralds or rubies, sapphires or diamonds? What do you do to preserve these precious gems? How do you treat them? What do you to show how much you value them? Whatever you do to take care of your precious gems is what you should do to take care and nurture your relationships with your sisters. In order to keep them in good condition, you may clean your gems. It’s important to keep your relationships with your sisters clean.

Do you know what types of things can dirty a relationship? Gossip, Lies, and Deceit are just a few things that can make a relationship dirty. Vow to keep your relationships clean with your sisters!

Another way you may take care of your gems is to have insurance on them in the event that they’re lost. You should also have insurance on your relationships with your sister(s). The insurance policy for your relationships can be summed up in one word…Forgiveness.

Forgiveness doesn’t have a high deductible and doesn’t cost anything from month to month. Forgiveness will ensure that you never lose your sister!

Living a life that is fulfilled physically, mentally, and spiritually will give the balance that is needed to be happy. Strong relationships with your sisters are the foundation of having Love, Joy, Peace, Longsuffering, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self-Control.

When our bodies aren’t working in sync and if any one aspect is out of control, we will not be able to live life according to our purpose.

Sisterhood is the gift that keeps on giving and our daily actions will either keep these relationships in tact or break them at record speed.

I will ask the question again….Are you a Sister Keeper? If not, perhaps you will begin today to become one.

Please join The Sister Accord movement by going to www.thesisteraccord.com and signing up to live the principles of The Sister Accord! Please share with all of your friends and family!

Comment on this Post


I have found that my most enduring, most rewarding, most joyful relationships are - and have always been - with the women in my life. Don't get me wrong, I do love the men that have tripped in - and out - but it is the women who have made the most enduring impact on me.

I am always saddened when I hear a woman talking about preferring the company of men or that women are so much more difficult to work with or get along with. I believe that we need to support each other and love each other and, as you say, engage, encourage and enlighten.

Bravo you for sharing your thoughts and for being such a role model for feminine empowerment.

I am going and signing up right now!