The Price of Peace

K-lee Starland
Posted January 11, 2010 from United States

One of my areas of human rights work has been in the area of violence/non-violence negotiations. For example, for many years I was comissioned by the Arizona, USA court systems to work with incarcerated violent women. Here are a few things I learned:

  1. Like everyone, they each just wanted to be unconditionally loved and listened to;
  2. Each one wanted to be validated as a worthwhile individual;
  3. Violence is a learned behavior-so is peace;
  4. You can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved (there were a few who like to hold on to violence and the unstable sense of power it brought to them.) When given tools for a more peaceful life, most women will practice them. Seems to create more smiles. Guilt sucks.

Lately, in another area I enjoy, I founded and have been working with a small group to start a health clinic for people without health insurance or money. I am pleased to say that after three years of hard work, this clinic will open within the next two or three months fully functional.

I love to hear any comments, suggestions, etc.

K-lee www.k-leestarland.com

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  • jodelight
    Jan 13, 2010
    Jan 13, 2010

    Hello Starland,

    Thank you for sharing some thoughts on your experience with peace and violence. Valuable input. Please continue to share with the PulseWire community!

    Kind Regards, Jody

  • K-lee Starland
    Jan 14, 2010
    Jan 14, 2010

    Thank you so much for your comments. I really apprecite them. I'll be visiting your part of the States in May - Seattle. A Mother's Day treat from my oldest daughter.

    Take care of you. Write soon. K-lee

  • Nusrat Ara
    Jan 13, 2010
    Jan 13, 2010

    I think u are really doing good work. Things work different in my country. When you talked of US Court Systems I remembered that of my place. People pray they have never to attend a court. You know I had a little brush with the judicial system beacuse of some mistake at my work. It has been eight years and I am still counting. You know I was feeling stronngly to write a comic play based on my experiences. Maybe some day.

    Keep sharing your thoughts and experiences.

    Love

  • K-lee Starland
    Jan 14, 2010
    Jan 14, 2010

    Hi Nusrat

    My learning curve is going up - I found you. I appreciate your thoughts on my journal very much. Yes, I can imagine that Kashmir is not a place to be incarcerated. I have worked many years with Church World Service in Karachi (please doin't mind if I mention Pakistan) and Kashmir has been an interest of mine for a long time from both countries perspectives.

    Please keep in touch. If there is any way I can assist you with any of your projects, please let me know.

    Love K-lee

  • Nusrat Ara
    Jan 14, 2010
    Jan 14, 2010

    No I don't mind your mentioning Pakistan. The country has a role to play in Kashmir. I would love to know more about your work and yes it will be great if we could work on something together. Hope to find something of the sorts soon.

    Love

  • K-lee Starland
    Jan 15, 2010
    Jan 15, 2010

    Hi Nusrat

    So good to hear from you. I sent you another message, too, but apparently it went to someone else. Oh, my. I'll get this figured out yet.

    Mostly what I've been doing is helping to write human rights programs that they (Church World Service) are taking to the rural areas in Sindh and a few other places. (I write the basics and they edit as they see fit and translate it into Urdu. Out of this came a workbook that is being used not only in Pakistan but also in Afghanistan, Kenya and Columbia so I understand. If you would like a copy, I would be most happy to send one to you. Just send your mailing address. It is a workbook mostly for children/schools/families everywhere. I've used it here, too, where kids had no idea what human rights are or that they exist.

    What I mentioned in the message that went to someone else, was that I would like to hear about your "brush with the law", as they say here, Sounds like a great story.

    Love K-lee

  • K-lee Starland
    Jan 14, 2010
    Jan 14, 2010

    I was just thinking about you Nusrat and wishing you well. I would love to hear about your court experience. Please tell me. Sometimes a comic play is just what is needed for both the writer and the audience. I think that is a fun idea.

    Best wishes K-lee

  • Jade Frank
    Jan 15, 2010
    Jan 15, 2010

    Hi K-lee,

    I have so enjoyed witnessing your voice blossom here on PulseWire! It is great to have you here in the community. I'd like to offer a tip for responding to comments. Make sure to hit the reply button at the bottom of the comment box to which you are responding. Is this last comment that you posted for Nusrat, you did not use this reply feature and she won't receive notice that you've continued the conversation. I recommend re-posting this by hitting the reply button in her comment box.

    Warm regards, Jade

    Online Community Manager World Pulse

  • K-lee Starland
    Jan 15, 2010
    Jan 15, 2010

    Good morning, Jade. Thank you for your help. I need all the help with this I can get. Obviously. I, too, am enjoying meeting people on this network. Please keep helping. Thanks.

    K-lee

  • Jade Frank
    Jan 15, 2010
    Jan 15, 2010

    K-lee,

    Please feel free to reach out to me anytime you have questions or want to learn how to dive deeper into the community whether it's finding members who have similar interests or expertise on a specific topic or navigating the site. I am here for you!

    You can also always refer to the FAQ page here: http://www.worldpulse.com/pulsewire/about/faq

    I love that you've so bravely jumped into the conversations here on PulseWire and added your voice to our community! Rock on sister!

    Hugs, Jade

  • Nusrat Ara
    Jan 15, 2010
    Jan 15, 2010

    I will be more than glad to help in any way I can. Feel free to ask. Click on the name and u can see a persons profile . From there u can navigate to see thier friends, groups and of course journal.

    Love

  • Nusrat Ara
    Jan 15, 2010
    Jan 15, 2010

    U have given me an idea dear. I will make a post about it :)

    Love