Peace, Security and the Voices of Women

Tamarack Verrall
Posted September 17, 2018 from Canada

For world peace to happen, the voices of women must be heard. I know this because I listen to women. I know this because I am a woman and feel it in my bones. When women have spoken, we have been silenced. When women have spoken, we have been ridiculed, threatened, shamed, punished, beaten, imprisoned and murdered. The suppression of our voices, the decisions made behind closed doors in rooms that we continue to be prevented entry, have served to maintain and continue to escalate this violence and exclusion. Exclusion that has resulted in poverty, lack of health care, lack of access to free education, lack of freedom of choice, lack of caring for the earth, and routinely, the death of women and girls who step out of line.

For world peace to happen we need to address and change the system which has been built over centuries and which is designed to maintain a world in which men have control, and in which men control women. We are told that this is the way it has always been, that this is the way it is meant to be. Societies that have existed and do exist with women leaders, communities living in harmony, are part of hidden history. What women have accomplished as courageous leaders, as brilliant writers and scientists, as powerful athletes, as defenders of the earth, as protectors of their communities continues to be hidden. “Traditions” have been put into place that profoundly harm girls and women. The vast majority of women worldwide have faced violence and continue to be restricted in movement, in life choices, in expression of our opinion that life can be different. New forms of violence continue to be invented with impunity.

When women speak up we are told that that we are being unrealistic, unreasonable and dangerous to the correct order of society. That men are meant to be in control. Women may enforce this system to stay safe themselves. Many current religions reinforce this. Politicians reinforce this. Business owners, even teachers reinforce this. But we did not create this. When we question these rules, we are told either that “this is the way it is meant to be” or that “change takes time”. Our foremothers were told that change takes time. For centuries we have been told that change takes time. I understand now on a deeper level after watching generations being taught the same message, that this is the excuse to not face change. That we have no business speaking about this. Who made up these rules? Not women. Who is being so controlled? Women. This is patriarchy.

The system we are facing is one in which the world economy is controlled largely by men, men who have developed an economic system that breeds an obscene difference between people, with largely untaxed money held privately offshore in the hands of a very few, with corrupt government systems that have created extreme poverty, lack of medical care, unattainable education costs, ruination of the earth and increasingly vicious methods of war, with more people than ever before in forced migration, and with extinction of animals - all forming the disastrous direction we are hurtling toward - self annihilation. We are told that change is unrealistic. We know that this is not true. As women, as givers of life, as mothers of children we continue to be silenced. As women we are chastised for speaking about this control of women by men, called biased, man-haters, while boys and men continue to be taught that they have the right to silence any woman who speaks out. Girls are murdered for being in public or defying the rules of their fathers. Boys are taught that to grow into a man acceptable to other men, that they need to control women, that as men they need to protect the power of men to control the world. This is patriarchy, and this is what needs to change.

As long as the current priorities are in place, we see little change. The earth and its people are extremely and dangerously off balance, and it is the silencing of women that maintains this direction as we free fall toward ruin. With every woman and girl who is silenced, or murdered, we fall deeper. As women we know what is needed. We have a different vision. We feel, we mourn the lack of peace and security daily. We experience the closed doors, the ridicule, the violence when we step forward to say that there is another way, a way that would benefit everyone. That these simple and humanitarian measures have not been put in place long ago speaks to the selfishness of those determined to keep privileged lives for themselves, both in individual families, and on a world leadership level. If offshore moneys were taxed fairly we could solve world poverty and put in place global medical care. If we as women were to have respect with equal voice, we would rearrange priorities, ending violence, ending poverty and ending war.

For world peace and security to happen, the priorities of women need to be in place. Everyone with homes, enough food to eat, safe water to drink, forests protected. For world peace to happen we need wars to end, gun running to stop, and all forms of violence against women and girls, and against men and boys who refuse to take part in the current expectations of “manliness’, to end.

We need to change the narrative. The idea that men have the right and duty to dominate women was made up by men. It is a lie that continues to be not only told but horribly enforced. That women want to do to men what men have done to us is also a lie, promoted to undermine our intentions and to create fear of change. We need the truth of history to be brought forward. It has not always been this way, and it is not this way these days, everywhere. We need societies in which women leaders are present, and respected for the unique perspectives we have to offer. We need gentle men to step forward and teach boys that gentleness and fairness is of benefit to them as well, and that men do not have the right to ever harm women or girls. We need community meetings on every level. We need free schooling for every child on this planet, schooling that does not hide the truth of where we are at now, and that encourages moving forward together, encouraging the best in every child, education that encourages the brilliance of girls to thrive and lead the way to a different future. 

We need to to live in harmony with the land. We need to live in harmony with each other. We need the truth to be told, that what has been missing for far too long, what is missing today, and what is needed for our future is the leadership of women.

This post was submitted in response to The Future of Security Is Women .

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Corine Milano
Sep 17, 2018
Sep 17, 2018

Tam, as always this is so beautiful. Thank you for speaking up and sharing what security means to you. What amazing solutions you have brainstormed here! Thank you.

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 18, 2018
Sep 18, 2018

Thank you, Corine. It is always both an energizing and fearsome feeling to write and send off a story hoping it will resonate with my WorldPulse sisters.

Corine Milano
Sep 18, 2018
Sep 18, 2018

I so understand that sentiment - and, by speaking out, you are paving the way for more and more women to do so! We are so grateful for your strong and powerful presence here in this community. <3

Tarke Edith
Sep 17, 2018
Sep 17, 2018

Hi mum Tamarak
How pleansan it will to the world when the voices of women are head or listen to or take into consideration or look at or tabled in the palamemt as a topic to discus on , well sister let keep our fingers cross and hope that one day we will be listen to, thanks very much sister you has inspired me a lot .

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 18, 2018
Sep 18, 2018

Hi Edith,
Thank you for writing. Yes, I do believe that what we are creating here by raising our voices together is moving us to a day when our priorities and pressure for change will be too strong to be ignored. I am inspired by your determination and the difference you have made already in so many women's lives.

Tarke Edith
Sep 18, 2018
Sep 18, 2018

Thank you mum

Harris Namutebi
Sep 18, 2018
Sep 18, 2018

Thanks Tam,
Indeed as women we need to have a voice and action that supports the voice.Until women learn to look out for one another,men will continue to take advantage of the unleveled playing field.You have said it all
Thanks
Harris

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 18, 2018
Sep 18, 2018

Hi Harris,
I so agree. It is still not easy for women to step forward and look out for each other. But this is what I love about what we have here inside WorldPulse. I appreciate your supportive comment here!

Princesse MUHINDO Malembero
Sep 18, 2018
Sep 18, 2018

Yes dear Tam, Congrat ! our voice is one of the result to change some situation and to correct orders.

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 19, 2018
Sep 19, 2018

Dear Princesse,
I feel us working together. Yes, together we are creating change.

jlanghus
Sep 18, 2018
Sep 18, 2018

Wow, Tam. You outdid yourself with this peace. I have to share it on my social media channels... truly exceptional.

Thanks so much for sharing your ever-strong, ever-beautiful voice.

Namaste:-)

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 19, 2018
Sep 19, 2018

Dear Jill,

Thanks for your strong support, here and always. It means a lot.

jlanghus
Sep 20, 2018
Sep 20, 2018

You're very welcome, dearest:-) Hope you're having great day!

Reny
Sep 18, 2018
Sep 18, 2018

Thanks Tam for speaking up. I will be speaking up one of these days too.
There is a lot the world is losing by putting women aside selecting key positions and decisions in the society. If we must fuel positive change, we must give a reasonable and considerate place to women.
Peace

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 19, 2018
Sep 19, 2018

Dear Renette,

Thanks so much. I look forward to your story. You are so right that it is our voices and ideas that have been missing, and what we have to offer is desperately needed. It is such a joy to be finding each other here.

Olutosin
Sep 18, 2018
Sep 18, 2018

My sister has spoken! Yes you are very correct. You have spoken on our behalf. The world must listen to us. Thank you for this awesome piece.

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 19, 2018
Sep 19, 2018

My dear sister,

Knowing we are working together gives me such strength and inspiration. Thank you so much for your beautiful message.

Love always,
Tam

charlenegailtaruwona
Sep 19, 2018
Sep 19, 2018

Thank you Tamarack for speaking out on our behalf. This is indeed awesome.

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 19, 2018
Sep 19, 2018

Dear Charlene,

Thank you, and a big welcome to WorldPulse! I look forward to your voice in our amazing network.

charlenegailtaruwona
Sep 20, 2018
Sep 20, 2018

Thank you Tam. Watch the space.

charlenegailtaruwona
Sep 20, 2018
Sep 20, 2018

Thank you Tam. Watch the space.

Lily Habesha
Sep 19, 2018
Sep 19, 2018

Tam,
Thank you for this wonderful story. This can change impact thousands of woman worldwide. You are a true advocate to your sisters around the globe. Keep writing and we are here to learn from you always.

With Love,

Lily

Seka
Sep 21, 2018
Sep 21, 2018

Bonjour Tam,
C'est avec satisfaction que je lis ce que vous avez écrit sur "Peace,Security and the voices of Women". Il est vrai que tant que la femme sera toujours gardée à la poubelle, il n'y aura jamais de paix. Il y a un adage qui dit que en éduquant une femme on éduque toute la nation. La femme ne donne pas que la vie en mettant au monde mais c'est par elle que tout le reste vit. L'heure a sonné pour que nous nous levions et dénoncions tout ce dont nous sommes victimes. Ensemble nos voix sont fortes!

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Sis. Salifu
Sep 21, 2018
Sep 21, 2018

Hi Aunty Tam :-)

I am Lisbeth and nice to meet you :-), I honestly do agree that change is now and today. Women are tired of waiting :-D that is exactly why WP gave us this platform for us to speak, and you are doing just that. You spoke well Aunty :-)
Greeting from Ghana
Lisbeth

Adanna
Sep 25, 2018
Sep 25, 2018

This is beautiful Tam!

Yes, we need to change the narrative and we need societies in which women leaders are present, and respected for the unique perspectives we have to offer (you can say that again and again).

Thank you for sharing.

Love,
Adanna

ARREY - ECHI
Sep 25, 2018
Sep 25, 2018

As Always, I enjoy reading your write up, Sis Tam. very well written and packed with lessons.
Love, Arrey

Celine
Sep 29, 2018
Sep 29, 2018

Dearest Sister,

Thank you for always inspiring with your beautiful soul, thought and actions. Thank you for solutions proffered, which we hope the world would give ear to.

Indeed, suppression of women's voices and decisions made without us maintain and continue to escalate violence and exclusion. Hence poverty, lack of access to free education, lack of health care and lack of freedom wear women's face and deny women of peace.
We can't appreciate WP enough for opportunity of raising our voices not withstanding the suppression and our circumstances.

Love you loads,
Celine

Obisakin Busayo
Sep 30, 2018
Sep 30, 2018

Dear Tam!
That is the point! women's voice is key to World Peace. The half of the world cannot be silent and you want to achieve peace. Thank you been an inspiring soul all the time. I hope the world leaders take a clue on the solution you proffers. So inspiring and educative Tam, thank you so much for sharing

Love
Busayo

Fatima Wahab Babih
Oct 02, 2018
Oct 02, 2018

Sis. Tam,
You've said it all so eloquently! You hit the nail on the head about the silence of women perpetuating this status quo; until we all rise up and speak in one voice, patriarchy will prevail. Sadly, being in the developed world makes no difference; just listen to Dr. Blasey Ford who grew up in affluence but was still victimized, just like a girl in the third world would be. The only difference with women in the West is that once in a while, the silence is broken, especially now with the #metoo movement. Thanks for educating us on so much about this issue.
God bless us all!

Marietta
Oct 03, 2018
Oct 03, 2018

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