Am an evolving woman, i believe am getting to that stage where i wanna get married, marry a man who will treat me as a princess. Am one of those girls who still believe in the fairy tale. Get a perfect man, have cute little babies and live happily ever after.It hasn't always been the same for one of my best friends, MY MOTHER.... i have watched my mom be ridiculed, belittled,broken her wrist by the hands of my father. And while i love my father more than life its self, i can not still come to terms about his treatment of my mom, his need to feel macho at her expense.
My mother is simply the strongest women, calling her my hero is simply an understatement. She has overcome more than is painful to talk about on my watch, sometimes i wish i could go back and stand up for my only mother, and fight for her , but what chance did i ever stand my self? What chance really?? Am an African woman and however liberal i wanna be there is social curtails to whom i should be, what i should talk about , how i should speak about the disrespect of my father towards my mother .
One day, just one day am gonna tell this man i religiously , genuinely love, the man who has given me everything to love my mom a little more. Just love peacefully more, I hope i pick up my courage soon, i see the love but yet see the hate more, why cant it just be LOVE? WHY WON'T EMOTIONAL VIOLENCE , AND ABUSE TOWARDS WOMEN END?? Because some times we are just too weak and scared and watch it go on!!
During these 16 days of activism against gender violence. I would want us not to forget the most horrific form of violence there can exist, EMOTIONAL VIOLENCE.
This Christmas, i hope to stand up towards my Father for my mother's sanity!
Take action! This post was submitted in response to Take Back the Tech 2013.