“ONE MAN MADE THE DIFFERENCE… MY FATHER!”

Tumanjong Miranda
Posted January 30, 2018 from Cameroon
He made the difference... Fusi Richard

Growing up in community where girls were looked upon as weak, fragile and incapable of handling property, one man made the difference.

Growing up in a community where the girl’s place was in the farm or kitchen, one man made the difference.

Growing up in a community where the girls were not given the opportunity to go to school and sent into early marriage, one man made the difference.

Men and boys in my community did not treat girls with dignity and respect, but my father instilled his virtues into my brothers and they all made the difference.

In my community, there was discrimination between boys and girls. The boys were made to believe they were superior to girls. You could find girls doing all the house chores like cooking and cleaning, doing farm work and carrying heavy loads to and from the farms to markets; meanwhile the boys stayed drinking in bars and found in football fields playing.

My father made my brothers to know that boys and girls are the same; they all deserve equal opportunities and chances. He taught us that human rights were applicable to all and not just the male folks. He assisted my mother at home there by teaching by example. He sent my mother back to school and took care of us while she was away.

With this, my brothers treated us the way we deserve – as human beings with equal rights. Whenever people saw my brothers going to the farm with us or cooking for the family, they made comments such as “what are the girls doing?” or “what do you people want to show?” Their friends even made fun of them and called them weak guys. To them, it meant nothing because they upheld our family virtues and values. They knew that we (the girls of the home) deserved the best too. I admire the way my brothers treat and take care of their wives and children. They also instill this value in their children. This is because of the difference on man made.

My parents educated both boys and girls. They have shared their properties to all of us (I can boast of a piece of land which my father gave me). That is what makes him my biggest role model.

He educates his peers whenever he discusses with them on the importance of giving both boys and girls equal opportunities like educating them, sharing properties to them, allowing them make their own life choices with respect to marriage and dowry-related rites etc. I remember an instance where his friend came to my home and asked my father why at my age, I was still not married and he responded by telling the man he was not going to trade me for selfish desires. Due to the way my father brought us up, community members gave him the name “Last man standing” or “last Don”

I celebrate this great man because through him I am where I am today. He still fights against inequality, though aging out. He encourages my walk in the fight against gender based violence and inequality; he told me that the worlds will not be complete if there were no women and girls and they deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. I call on all men to learn from my father so that we can attain a level of equality, girls will be given the opportunity to reach their full potential. This can only be done by educating and involving men and boys in the fight against gender inequality.

This post was submitted in response to Bringing Up Boys .

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jlanghus
Jan 30, 2018
Jan 30, 2018

Hi Tumanjong. Thanks for sharing your awesome story about your dad. I wish I read more of these on here, to be honest:-) What a wonderful role model he is. Were his parents egalitarian or did he learn this behavior? I'm very curious to know:-)

Tumanjong Miranda
Jan 30, 2018
Jan 30, 2018

Hi jlanghus, actually he cultivated this behavior. He didn't want his children to go through what he went through. His past made him stronger and determined to work for the good of all. 

jlanghus
Jan 30, 2018
Jan 30, 2018

Hi there:) Wow. That's even more impressive. Good job!

Tumanjong Miranda
Jan 30, 2018
Jan 30, 2018

Thank you :)

jlanghus
Jan 30, 2018
Jan 30, 2018

You're welcome:)

Evelyn Fonkem
Jan 30, 2018
Jan 30, 2018

Wow Miranda this is so inspiring.I can attest to the fact that your father made the difference.He is a role model that other men should emulate.Thanks for sharing

Tumanjong Miranda
Jan 30, 2018
Jan 30, 2018

Thank you Evelyn

Adede Owalla
Jan 30, 2018
Jan 30, 2018

Hello Miranda , am happy for your Dad , I think if we had more Fathers like him especially in the 20th Century, today our world could have been different . The struggles he made to make you who you are is great and being that at his old age he still champion for equality, he is a HERO.

Thanks for sharing this!

Tumanjong Miranda
Jan 30, 2018
Jan 30, 2018

Thank you Adede

Natasha Rastogi
Jan 31, 2018
Jan 31, 2018

such a wonderful writeup about your dad and how he cultivated ideas of equality among your brothers and the family that there is no difference between girls and boys in any respect. Kudos !

Tumanjong Miranda
Feb 03, 2018
Feb 03, 2018

Thank you Natasha

honorine
Feb 03, 2018
Feb 03, 2018

Thank you my darling kid sister for this write up about dad. He is indeed an example to emulate. He has set a pace for all of us: both boys and girls. We are hereby challenged to follow in his foot steps. Thanks once more to our super daddy for raising us this way.

Tumanjong Miranda
Feb 03, 2018
Feb 03, 2018

Thank you big sister!