THE WOMAN TODAY…

Tumanjong Miranda
Posted March 6, 2018

The Woman today is a shadow of herself because of what happened yesterday

The attitude she has today, is a reflection of her yesterday.

The timid woman today, is a reflection of what she went through yesterday.

The courageous woman today, is a reflection of what happened yesterday.

Dear woman, everyone has a past; be it good or bad. The ‘you’ today and tomorrow all depend on how you resolved your past.

Many of us have been victims of violence especially sexual violence. Many of us were forced into early and unhappy marriages, which resulted into domestic violence and even spousal rape. Many of us have been victims of other forms of sexual assault.

Due to all these, some women are timid and week, others have become “too strong to handle.”

The fact that our communities have not understood what rape is, and its effects on the victim have led to an increase in the prevalence of this social ill. In our communities, rape cases are negotiated and the perpetrator goes unpunished. The victims are not given appropriate psychosocial care, community members tend to put the blame on the victim. This has left a scar on these victims; most of which brings them pain throughout their lives. This has made them shadows of themselves.

I have had some instances of sexual assault, but I handled instantly and at the moment to pass a warning message to other men. Let me tell you a summary of two instances. I slapped a bike rider at the junction of my school, when I was still in the university, because he tapped my buttocks, when I was passing. This made onlookers surprised, but I owed no one explanations for my action. I also warned my lecturer for tapping my breast in class… I don’t tolerate these acts from anybody; no matter who you are. This is because once tolerated, it continues and at the end, most girls get rapped

RAPE IS A CRIME and there’s no excuse for it.  It’s high time we broke the silence on rape and other forms of sexual violence. It’s high time we stopped negotiating with perpetrators of rape.

I took the pledge to fight sexual violence by all cost. I educate the young girls of my community about rape and what to do when faced with a situation of rape. I educate them not to tolerate or smile at anyone who dares touches them “inappropriately”. I teach them to know that they are worth everything and they have to be treated with dignity.

Join me in this race… Let’s build a girl with a positive mind today, so that she will not be a Shadow woman tomorrow, but the strong nation builder who she is.

This post was submitted in response to You Are a Silence Breaker..

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Ann Forsthoefel
Mar 06
Mar 06

Dear Miranda,

Your letter is so amazing and inspiring! You are shaping the future of all women.

Bright blessings,
Ann

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 06
Mar 06

Thanks Ann :-)

Evelyn Fonkem
Mar 06
Mar 06

Dear Miranda rape is a form of gender based violence that must be discouraged.Thanks for your write up

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 06
Mar 06

Thank you Evelyn :-)

Sophie Ngassa
Mar 06
Mar 06

Dear lil sis Miranda, You are doing a very great job in our communty that makes you a Silence Breaker. I join you to say Zero Tolerance to voilence against women and girls.Thanks for sharing this story.

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 06
Mar 06

Thank you Aunt Sophie.

Lily Habesha
Mar 07
Mar 07

Dear Miranda,
You are wonderful.

Thank you for breaking the silence

Lily

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you Lily

Aramide Oikelome
Mar 07
Mar 07

Miranda Dear!

You are a brave woman! Your courage is most needed to encourage and strengthen the younger generation.

Keep up the good work! You are a Silence Breaker!

Aramide

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you Aramide. I'm Humbled

Beth Lacey
Mar 07
Mar 07

Miranda, I love your courage and your teachings
Beth

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thanks Beth!

Clodine Mbuli Shei
Mar 07
Mar 07

Whaoooo,
Congratulations Miranda on the great work in your community. Yesterday shapes our today and tomorrow. Thank you for adding worth to your community.

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thanks for your words of encouragement Clodine!

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 07
Mar 07

Dear Miranda,
What a beautiful, strong voice you have. It is wonderful to let your words rush over me like a strong, soothing waterfall. That young women are hearing your message is such good news. You are truly creating change and inspiring girls to have confidence to say No. The photos speak volumes!

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 08
Mar 08

Thank you Tamarack

Wendy Stebbins
Mar 08
Mar 08

Tumanjong, YAY! You are amazing.

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 08
Mar 08

Awwww thank you Wendy!

Leina
Mar 08
Mar 08

This is powerful darling!I see a brighter tomorrow for the women of Cameroon thanks to mindsets such as yours,keep impacting!

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 08
Mar 08

Thank you Leina! It's a struggle that doesn't end!

Anne McCaw
Mar 08
Mar 08

Tumanjong, thank you for being such a model of strength. Thank you for teaching girls to be strong and vocal, to teach them that any form of touching, groping, or violation of their body should not be tolerated. The world will be so much better for the girls you inspire.

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 08
Mar 08

Thanks Anne

Valéria Barbosa
Mar 08
Mar 08

Dear sister, how beautiful the job you're doing with these young women. They will certainly be able to work with more attention on the reflexes of the past and will have a future of many achievements. Congratulations.

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 08
Mar 08

Thank you for the good words Valéria!! :-)

Hello, Tumanjong,

I admire you for who you are, what you do and how you use whatever you have in helping out the girls in your community. It is inspiring to know that these girls will be teaching more girls in the future, and eventually the riples of your advocacy will touch a whole generation of women who will fight back and say NO to all forms of violence.

The seed you are planting today is so powerful. One day, you will see it has transform to trees, and these trees will produce more seeds, then eventually a whole forest. That is how powerful your impact is, dear sister.

It is my desire that I will find an opportunity for me to mentor young girls, too. Kudos to you!

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 09
Mar 09

Thank you so much Karen. I can't wait to see that change in the next generations. It's high time the strength of the woman is felt in our communities. Your words spur my spirit to want to do more.
Thank you!

tayebwa
Mar 11
Mar 11

thank you dear. this is so interesting. thats why i like women of today.

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 11
Mar 11

Thanks Tayebwa!

Mujidah
Mar 14
Mar 14

You are indeed a silence-breaker. There truly has to be a shift from the victim-blaming mentality to punishing the perpetrators. Rape is a NO-NO!

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 14
Mar 14

Thank you Mujidah! :-)

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victoria l
Apr 06
Apr 06

Hello Miranda,
This is wonderful article about who really a woman is. We tolerate alot, we sacfrice alot for the sake of others. I am proud to me a woman.

Victoria

Tumanjong Miranda
Apr 12
Apr 12

Thank you Victoria! I'm also very proud to be a woman :)

victoria l
Apr 12
Apr 12

You are welcome Miranda. Being a woman is a beautiful thing because of the contributions that we make in our Communities regardless of whether they are seen or not. I am proud to be a woman too.
Thank you a gain.

Feka
Apr 11
Apr 11

Dear Miranda, I love your charisma and your ideas are on point. If we can't say NO, we would be forced to say Yes and that's a big scar that won't disappear even with time. I support and encourage you, all the way!

Tumanjong Miranda
Apr 12
Apr 12

Thank you Feka!

Ndongmanji Eunice
Apr 12
Apr 12

Inspiring article. You really are a silence breaker.
Remain blessed.
Eunice

Tumanjong Miranda
Apr 12
Apr 12

Thank you Eusi!

Suh Diviner
Jun 18
Jun 18

Dear Miranda,
happy to find someone like you who stands up against sexual violence. I like the way you write my dear.
Hope this message reaches those perpetrators and those who conspire with them. Keep writing to break the silence.
Love !

Tumanjong Miranda
Aug 05
Aug 05

Thank you dear sister :)

KARHIMANYA
Sep 12
Sep 12

exactement ce ça ma cher

KARHIMANYA
Sep 12
Sep 12

exactement ce ça ma cher; ce très amisent

Tumanjong Miranda
Sep 12
Sep 12

Merci ma soeur