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Literally, my vision is to see women smile after a tough time. When I lost my baby after birth, I was so bitter. I was going down every day, I refused to eat and take care of myself. Usually prefer to be alone, my only companion was my bible but yet I remained in my closet. My family was supportive yet.......... One day, a family friend visited, I was alone. After asking of everyone he said "is it because of what happened to you that you refused to make you hair and look good, you do not need to be hard on yourself after all you are not the first person to lose a baby". Those words turned me around. First I was not expecting such from an elderly man. Second, it was my hair he noted, it was scattered. When he left, I picked up a mirror to look at my face which I have not done for almost a month. I took a comb, combed my hair and bond it; a gentle smile came out of me. I gained my strength back with the power of those words.

Practically, my community vision is to develop a community magazine (ABOUT HER) which will focus on women’s health awareness and education and girl’s empowerment. I truly want to address women's health because of my health experience. I learnt that not all with protruded tummy are pregnant. A lady sat beside me in church and she whispered into my ear "am praying to have this gift of yours". I laughed and replied "God will give you what you desire. She did not know it was fibroid. I was like a 7months pregnant woman. A lot of Nigerian women and young girls are carrying it. My brother's friend and the wife attended our family party. I was happy when I saw her, I said to my mama; thank God this lady is now pregnant. She said it's fibroid. Another, is single and in her late 30s. She always covers herself with wrapper because people think she is pregnant. The major treatment option is traditional medicine. They promise their drugs will shrink it and massage the stomach so hard. When I noticed the growth, my mama’s friend took us to a man whom she said treat all women problem. It was a riverine area; you have to walk on constructed wood bridge to get to the building. I met alot of beautiful women there. There was a rubber mat on the floor which acts as the bed for massaging. The environment was messy; the saliva in mouth kept increasing. Women were being massaged one after the other. Mama and friend did. It was my turn; he asked me the problem, I narrated, asked if I wanted the routine. I refused and he left me. He said it will cost me $400 to receive treatment and $200 for mama. He said mama has liver problem that was what he noticed. She should bring along a piece of old wrapper of hers for treatment. Mama wanted to negotiate the price, I cut in and said, do not worry sir, we will come when we are ready, and we left. Mama known that I wanted to leave that environment immediately and that I would never return there again. I took other types of traditional medicine for 5years but get no result. Some say it works but my sister’s friend died after massaging. Surgery is too expensive in Nigeria. I envision organising a pool of volunteer medical team to attend to women health problem or find a remedy. Awareness on this is shallow. I truly want to start from here.

It’s one thing to run, it another to be a runner. I want to be a runner of Voice of the Future to establish a platform for women and girls to learn, be empowered, educated, connected and happy. Pulse Wire, ICT can be a new idea.......

I want to be guided to make my voice harder and be heard. To be well informed globally, to learn new ideas and meet friends. This collaboration will help me achieve my vision. World pulse has taking a part of me...............

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I'm no doctor, but that treatment sounds like a hoax. You were wise to walk away. We lost two children due to fibroids prior to having our son. He was a very sick and small child because the fibroid was so large that it was stealing the nutrients he needed to survive in the womb. I strongly suggest you try to treat the fibroids before getting pregnant again, if you can.

As I understand it, uterine fibroids are benign tumors in the uterus caused primarily by excess estrogen. Here in America, large consumption of hormone-enhanced poultry is a leading factor in fibroids. Fish, fruits and nuts, and veggies are a healthier choice if they are available. Surgery, whether to shrink the size of the fibroids using laser or to remove the uterus, seems to be the most successful course of treatment.

Good luck, and know that you are not alone.

Thank you Karen,

Yes, i agree with you that surgery is the most successful option of treatment. i had mine on the 27th of January, 2009. Am now very strong. But most people are very scared of surgery because of complication that leads to death, i was actually afraid too but it took me courage to do it.

Educating women on health diet is so important so as to be healthy.



''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

i think it is high time women rally round women to find lasting solution to the treatment of firbroid, many women have lost their lives because of this, and the tradico-medical amateurs do not help matters at all. Thanks for writing about fibroid, it kills everyday in Nigeria.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale Founder/Project Coordinator Star of Hope Transformation Centre 512 Road F Close Festac Town Lagos-Nigeria https:

Educating women about their health is important. This should be done by all who is concerned. Women like you should be part of the team.

Thank you


''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

Hello Vivian,

Been a while since I connected with you. This story brings back some memories like as if it happenned yesterday!

I am so glad you came out of it. It is hard not to think “everything is happening just to me” Yes, Vivian it is something as “someone noticing the hair”…. That bring some sense to the chaos in our minds and we feel the power of a smile. Totally understand they way you felt.

I have a story, let me share the gist of it with you, Yes, I was pregnant until the foetus dies… In a Dr's opinion I was a healthy pregnant woman, yet, I was just carrying a dead foetus of about 4weeks, a growing placenta (or whatever it was) and a large water bag for a long time. The irony was that the Dr could feel the child in my belly when I could not feel. “You are insensitive, I can feel it” was the Dr’s verdict. No one would listen to me. The only solution I saw was to leave everything to the God who created me. God kept me safe and lead to a natural miscarriage in the 8th month… without loosing my life to an infected uterus+++…! Psychological pain was unbearable I felt so lonely…

We are stronger than we think, we survive the odds. In the survival process we have embrace change. I am so glad I am alive to share my experiences and be part of Worldpulse. It is sheer joy to realise I am not alone.

All the best Vivian and wish you a great weekend

Cheers, Amei

Hello Amie,

Good to hear from you again. How is everything with you.? hope fine. Our experiences yesterday prepare us for tomorrow. it makes us strong and determined. It so good that we are survived these tough time, we struggle to live and when we live, we live for others to keep lives positively with our story. Our reproductive health is so important and should be handled with care.



''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

When you expect the unexpected things in life , life becomes much easier to live. i am proud to see you as a powerful woman back with your power and strength!!

i always wish you all the very best!!!


Nilima from Nepal

You are the voice of WP, and you are being heard and your articles are being read by thousands and i hope more thousands of women even men and young girls and boys you have so much to share and so much to offer and you will be given a chance this is just the beginning for all of us, we have our whole life to commit and act upon our hopes ideals and visions in life keep up this great work my dear friend for you are definitely going places

take care everly

Solvitur ambulando (it is solved by walking)

Sometime, i cannot really believe the impact i am making here on pulse wire from the comments. This is truly the beginning for us and i look forward for the outcome of our assignments.

Thank you Everyl


''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

Dear Vivian,

You have a powerful voice! I love your concrete idea of creating a magazine for your community. You have identified a need and a way to address it! Have you already started thinking about how to put this magazine together? Sharing information, especially among women, is a great way to make changes!

Great job!


"Tell me then, what will you do with your one wild, sweet, and precious life?" -Mary Oliver

I have started the planning process of my magazine. Trying to put up a team because I cannot do it alone. Six people ( two male and four female) have indicated interest. One of the male is my mentor. He believe I can do it. When I informed him about it, he said I should count him as the No.1 on my team list. Two members are on worldpulse.

Next is to invite all for a meeting so as to put the ideas together. My challenge is limit time because of my work. Not have a computer at home is also challenging. That, am planning to get. Though I have access to the internet on my phone which has been so useful.

I have also started gathering some magazines together so as to get a good understand of what I want and to make a different.

One unique content I want to include in my magazine is Grandmama's corner. Where, we are going to have a chat with a grandma, hear her experience in life, her struggle, her challenges, advice and way forward. Then send her a copy afterward. Also, I do not intent to feature stars as most local magazine does but look out for women who are doing something unique within their community and give them a face, bring them out to the realm life and give them a voice. We are going to have page for global women's health issues and healty living. Share experince and true life stories of women.

The magazine is intented to give a face to the faceless. For a start, it may not be more that 16pages because of cost of production and circulation.

Thank you Racheal for being there. Pulse wire have really ignited the fire in me to start and I have started.



''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

Dear Vivian,

Your plan sounds great! I wish you all the best of luck in starting this new endeavor--it sounds like you will be making a difference! I am very inspired by your will to take action in your community and the fact that you will be spotlighting normal women (not super stars) in your magazine. Remember our Resource Exchange too if you need assistance!



"Tell me then, what will you do with your one wild, sweet, and precious life?" -Mary Oliver

Hi Vivian,

Your story beautifully illustrates what you want to do and why it is important. I really like the idea of starting with health education and empowerment combined with finding a way to provide healthcare for the women of your community. Here's an organization you might want to learn about if you don't already know of them. Maybe they could be helpful to you in your quest. At the very least, they are a powerful model of organizing to get healthcare to those who are always last in line.

Keep up your great work.



Thank you carol for visiting my journal. I will really lkie to be linked to this organization you talk about. Do kindly send me their contact.

Thank U


''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

Thank you for the quick response. Am grateful for your concern. You are wonderful


''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

I love your idea about a magazine - it sounds like a really powerful way to get information out to other people about health and wellness, about what women are doing in your community, as well as inspire others to join the cause! I look forward to reading about your progress with it!

Best of luck! Jo

Hello, Vivian!

Hurrah that you are a Correspondent! I remember so much appreciating your writing and communicating with you as one of your Listeners.

Will your magazine be in English? There are many resources that you can put information in from.... There are doctors who practice mainstream medicine (Mayo Clinic has a great website) and I can find sites with info from across the naturopathic health system.

I can tell you will have a huge impact for the women of your country ... and the world!



Speaking my Peace

You have gladen my heart this morning with your encouraging words. My magazine will be in English, contributions are welcome.

What do you mean by mainstream doctors? I will be very glad if you can help me with my vision to help allot of. Nigerian girls and women who are carrying fibroid in their womb.

Last week, I received a call from two people who have same problem. One, it was a friend of the person in question, she said her friend has been rushed to the hospital because of over bleeding. The doctor said hers is over growth and will involve removing her womb. She told me about her last year and I advise her to inform her friend to go and remove and that she will need counselling which I can provide but the friend refused but she want not married yet and already in her late 30s or early 40s. That was her major problem, marriage!! is it the living that can marry, can the died marry?

Marriage and giving birth is a big problem for Nigerian girls. Now, she have no choice and the price is now double the initial price she would have used last year. The doctor said it will cost her N350,000 convert to dollar then you will get it better. Her family have been seeking for assistance to save her now that the condition is bad.

The other person complain of pregnacy complication when she had her first baby and so want to know what to do about the fibroid.

I will really be happy if you can assistance touch save these women and girls.


''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

Hello Vivian:

I apologize for giving you the impression that I have information in my own hands that can make a difference.

Mainstream medicine is the regular kind of doctors who do surgery and prescribe medicatons. We call that allopathic medicine.

The Mayo Clinic is top of the line allopathic medicine. Here is their website:

Mayo Clinic: Medical Treatment and Research Centers Mayo Clinic — Comprehensive medical diagnosis and treatment; locations and services; request an appointment.

If that link doesn't work, here is their url:

Naturopathic medicine is more preventative, and uses treatments and vitamins and healthy eating. Some of the treatments are homeopathic remedies, acupuncture, (water) hydrotherapy, using alternating hot and cold towels. They would never make a claim of being able to fix urgent problems like you describe, but they understand many ways to support health and disease prevention. The one site I know is:

I am no expert, but there is good information out there. I suggest not believing everything you read...and being skeptical about which sites you might trust. An accredited school should be believable, and a big established center. In my own opinion, you can trust the two sites I gave you. Of course, you will decide for yourself.

Remember, your work may go slowly, and you may wish it were faster. But you have us sisters behind you.

Blessings to your goals,


Speaking my Peace