Women are accused wrongly

I stand to be corrected, but I think it is gender based violence when women are accused of infertillty in marriage. In Nigeria, women take the blame when the problem of infertility occurs in marriage. They are called names and tormented by their in-laws. When a women gets married, she is expected to be pregnancy the same month or next. After two months, if nothing happened, the woman begins to worry becos of what people will say. The first thing is to visit a traditional medical personal who gives varieties of concotions, the christians begin to visit different prayer homes, some are accused of being a witch, some are driven away from their matrimonal home, beaten, and denied of her rights in family.

I watched a nollywood yoruba movie tittled "Asepamo mi" last weekend, a man paid his friends to visit his house as armed robbers to rape his wife so she could get pregnant knowing fully well that he was sterile as a result of untreated STIs. He pleaded with the woman not to mention it to anyone and took her to his doctor friend for medication. He asked them to repeat the visit when he discovered she was not pregnant from the first act. . She was raped again and she become pregnant. The same thing he told her again, do not tell anyone, I will handle it. Finally, he had a quarrel with his friends and the news break out to the wife. I wept for her. Why should a woman be raped, assult, abuse just to have a child. It's a movie but I know it happened or can happen. Nigerian men do silly things just to have a child.

Then I ask, why not adopt a child. Child adoption could be a treatment option for infertility. Instead of subjecting women to pain, torture, let her adopt a child. Adoption is never an option for so many Nigerian men who are childless, they prefer to marry our woman without informing the latter. They refuse to go for medical attention. women do not have the right to mention adoption as another option of having a child in the family. If my health condition cannot permit me to give birth, why should I not be permitted to adopt. There are so many abandoned children in orphage homes wishing to have a home.

I may be wrong and stand to be corrected, every woman may not be able to bear a child for certain reason but every woman can own a child. I may be wrong, somebody please correct me.