I used to think of myself as a late bloomer… I didn't get into the University at the same time as my mates because I had serious health issues to deal with; I couldn't go along with the normal school calendar because I needed frequent medical attention and the Nigerian society did not and still doesn't make life easy at all for persons living with disabilities.
But I always told myself that it didn't matter as long as i bloomed, so first of all, I had to come to an acceptance of my present situation– I recognized my strengths and my weaknesses, my abilities and capabilities all the time putting the society in which I lived into consideration; acceptance also meant that I learned to love myself just the way I am; not the way I ought to be or the way I could have been but the way I am, this helped me put my heart to whatever I did.
Acceptance has also made me a better social worker in the 6 years I have practised – working voluntarily with young women living with disabilities; been a volunteer sexuality education facilitator at secondary schools in rural Lagos where I teach Junior and senior secondary school student between the ages of 11 – 18 topics such as rape, sexual molestation and abuse, sex addiction, pornography and masturbation; Initiating and launching the "Empowering Women of the Future" Project in a slum in Lagos along with many other life changing experiences too numerous to mention.
Acceptance for me also meant that I am no longer fixated on sad experiences in my past, instead, I am looking on into the future with so much optimism and determination and my soul is restless to make a difference – to change the status quo in Nigeria where disabled persons are ostracised from mainstream society consciously or not; where persons especially women living with different forms of disabilities are often times blamed for their challenges and as such they take whatever sexual, psychological, emotional or physical abuse that comes to them without speaking out because of fear of rejection.
Lastly, I have accepted that i am WHOLE every moment that i live and that I AM Victorious in all things!
So here I am; to share my joys and challenges, to encourage and learn, to grow in love and acceptance of myself and everyone else and to satisfy my souls restlessness for positive change! Disability, Girls and Women's Rights Insurmountable government bureaucracies Empowering vulnerable people
My Vision for the Future
An Egalitarian society/world. Where equal opportunities abound for all