NO ONE CAN TAKE YOUR INNER POWER AWAY FROM YOU.

Wendy Stebbins
Posted February 15, 2019 from United States

It's hard to believe that these two lists made such a difference to me, set me on a path of inner growth that no one knew about and no one saw coming.  I read them and knew right away a few of the things I could do to work towards self-respect and inner power. I hope they help you. Was it easy? No. Was it worth it? Always.

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TYPICAL SOURCES OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM INCLUDE THE FOLLOWING:

___Low parental esteem

___Belittling by parents, teachers and peers

___Lack of appreciation expressed by parents, teachers and peers

___Comparisons of children and their characteristics and talents by parents

___Lack of motivation to be independent

___False concepts given to the individual by parents, teachers and peers

___Demanding parents

___Parents that push children to fill needs that the parents never achieved

___Rivalry with an exceptionally talented brother and sister

___An unflattering physical appearance

___Adverse family, economic, social, cultural and ethnic conditions

___Raising children on the basis of reward and punishment

___Over-possessiveness, over-permissiveness and overcontrol

___A  sense of guilt over affluence

___A high value being placed on material possessions

___Repeated defeats and failures

___Procrastination

___Lack of purpose in life

___Depending on others for a sense of worth

___Doing what comes easiest and never accepting challenges

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A SELF-ACCEPTING PERSON HAS THE FOLLOWING CHARACTERISTICS

___Actively participating in life

___Is objective and spontaneous

___Is emotionally and intellectually honest

___Understands problems that arise in life, and accepts his or her limitations in      solving them

___Accepts the pleasure and discomforts that come with self-revelation

___Takes a reasonable view of life

___Is able to accept the limits of his or her talents and abilities, and to share in other's talents

___Doesn't brood about missed opportunities, lost causes, errors and failures, but looks instead for the knowledge and experience they contribute to life

___Does not have irrational emotions

___Is able to endure solitude on a limited basis

___Can handle unconventiality at times, but not simply for the sake of rebellion

___Is not rigid with rules

___Grants others their right to opinions and values

___Accepts, nourishes, trusts, respects and loves self

___Has a genuine interest, caring concern and respect for self

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I think it is so cool to know that people can yell at me, betray me, call me names, tell others bad things about me, neglect me, on and on. I don't have to react back. I can talk to my inner power. They can NEVER EVER touch my inner power and brain. NEVER. That is mine. A person can cut off my arms and legs even but I still have my inner power and the knowledge I have put in my brain. WOW! There's power in that. And the good news is, that once I have that, it's all I need. Everything else that's good, including people and promotions, come to me. 

"Copied from Wendy's MIND OVER MATTER newsletter and speech How To Get Rid Of What's Holding You Back.

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Kay Link
Feb 15
Feb 15

Thank you for sharing, Wendy. Reflection and introspection are so important to developing inner strength. We must always depend on ourselves and be confident in our completely unique personalities and individual talents!

Wendy Stebbins
Feb 15
Feb 15

You are right!

jlanghus
Feb 16
Feb 16

Hi Wendy,

Thanks for sharing this informative and interesting post. I say that it's interesting because I could relate to a lot of the low self esteem sources, but thankfully, and surprisingly (I didn't expect it), that I can also identify with, and embrace, almost all of "self accepting" traits now, which is awesome. It's great to have this sort of reality check for me.

Hope you're doing well!

Wendy Stebbins
Feb 16
Feb 16

WOW, Jill. Great revelation for you. And guess what? You deserve it.

jlanghus
Feb 17
Feb 17

Yes, it was! Aw, thanks:-) I could use some more of those...ha:-)

Have a good one.

Wendy Stebbins
Feb 17
Feb 17

AAWWWW!!!!

jlanghus
Feb 17
Feb 17

:-)