Love, Romance and Spirituality

What happens to a woman's spirituality when she gets involved with a man, is it enhanced, stunted in its growth or does it begin to wither? These are important questions that we must ponder as "modern women" who are affected by Hollywood and all its romantic stories, and westerns influence on "third world" cultures.
Daily I examine the news papers of Uganda, providing advice to young couples that are nearly all laced with western recipes to cure relationship problems.

So, how does spirituality come into the picture, you might be wondering? I once had a good friend tell me that romance is synonomous with the Trojan house that destroyed Troy. It comes all laced, dressed up and ready to kill the creative spirit of a woman if she surrenders her entire soul to a man. Seldom are we taught to reserve ourselves in relationships, most times we are told to love til death do us part, but what about the death of the soul before the body has given way.

How does one balance love, romance and spirituality? Have you ever pondered this question? What do you do, to ensure that you preserve that most precious and pure part of you, while at the same time being in a relationship?