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DRC: Security Begins With Women

Seka
Posted February 5, 2019 from Democratic Republic of the Congo

Seka challenges traditional gender roles when it comes to the important task of building peace in the Democratic Republic of Congo.

“Nothing lasting or permanent can ever be built without women.

A woman, in general, is a person of value in African society. It is thanks to her that society has been built. It is our duty to make women understand that even though we suffer from being subjected to prejudice, we must, like men, be concerned with the security issues all around us.

Men also need to work together with women in order to maintain security and keep the peace. Women should be included in any security process. We cannot ignore that women are real agents of change in society.

As women, our participation is indispensable to the establishment of any true and lasting peace. By nature, we have a heart that is compassionate to the sorrows of others. We hope for things to go well for others. Women often see things in finer detail while men see things from a general perspective.

However inferior the status of the woman may appear, she represents the nation. Nothing lasting or permanent can ever be built without women.

It is obvious that the starting place for action is in the family. Women are the departure point in society, the point at which all things begin.

In our tradition, it has always been said: "Everyone owes a debt to their father and twice the debt to their mother." There is a Peuhl poet who says, “With a woman nothing works, but without a woman—all is lost.”

Women are not unfit to do this or that in society. It is only custom that holds women back. I invite women to become aware of the chasm into which our customs have thrown us. We must rise up to play our own roles.

As they say, “What a woman wants, God also wants.” I say to each of you now: Women, educate yourselves. Have the wherewithal to make security decisions for yourselves. Take your place alongside men to bring peace into the world.

* Translated from French by Nana Nash


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Jill Langhus
Feb 05, 2019
Feb 05, 2019

Hi Seka,

Great job receiving the story award, dear. I'm glad your strong voice is being heard!

Seka
Feb 07, 2019
Feb 07, 2019

Thank you very much, Jill, I'm grateful to you for your encouragement. Yes, my voice is heard, It is amazing!
Be blessed!
Seka

Jill Langhus
Feb 07, 2019
Feb 07, 2019

You're very welcome, dear:-)

I'm grateful to you for the work that you are doing! Well done!

You, too:-)

Dawn Arteaga
Feb 05, 2019
Feb 05, 2019

Beautiful piece - thank you for sharing. I love your line "women are the point at which all things begin." There is so much power in recognizing our role in the world - and our role in building a more peaceful world.

Seka
Feb 07, 2019
Feb 07, 2019

Dear Dawn,
I am delighted to have spoken to a heart. Thank you very much for your attention. God bless you.
Seka

Wusufor
Feb 06, 2019
Feb 06, 2019

Dear Aunty Seka,
Congratulation on being a featured story teller :-)!

Seka
Feb 07, 2019
Feb 07, 2019

Thank you my sister Salifu. We are together.
Seka

Tarke Edith
Feb 07, 2019
Feb 07, 2019

Hi Seka
I am greatful with your award sister for you stood up for the women thanks and congrats dear

Seka
Feb 08, 2019
Feb 08, 2019

Thank you my sister Edith,
It is a joy for each one of us because we are one family. You're welcome.
seka

otahelp
Feb 07, 2019
Feb 07, 2019

Dear Seka, time for us to break out from the bondage of custom but most women do not buy into our idea. i know that continuous education and enlightenment will surely make us see the reason to arise and drive our future and that of our children.

thank you for sharing and congratulations for making the award.

Seka
Feb 08, 2019
Feb 08, 2019

Thank you my dear for the compliments. We hope that with time our truth will eventually triumph. Be blessed!
Seka

otahelp
Feb 08, 2019
Feb 08, 2019

good to know we all think alike on this

Seka
Feb 20, 2019
Feb 20, 2019

Thank you to read it!

Marie Abanga
Feb 07, 2019
Feb 07, 2019

Qu'elle histoire avec une message si forte et plein d'encouragement.

Thank you for sharing what the poet says although I don't get it when he starts by "with a woman nothing works..." lol

Anyways, your post makes me think of Meghan Markle's speech at the UNWomen when she said if men aren't inviting us to the table, we set our own table. That's my approach in life, giving myself permission to say it loud and clear.

Congratulations for getting the award

Seka
Feb 08, 2019
Feb 08, 2019

Hello Marie!
Well said! World Pulse is our table! We are all invited to participate.
God bless you!
Seka

ARREY- ECHI
Feb 08, 2019
Feb 08, 2019

Women are indeed the departure point in society where all things begin.
It is important for women voices to be heard. Beautiful piece.
Félicitations Soeur Seka. Beacoup du Courage.

Seka
Feb 11, 2019
Feb 11, 2019

Thank you very much to encourage me. I like so much WP because I am connected to the women's world. Together is one!
All the best!
Seka

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Feb 09, 2019
Feb 09, 2019

Congratulations, Sis Seka! I join you in your call, "Women, educate yourselves". Knowledge is power.

Seka
Feb 11, 2019
Feb 11, 2019

Dear Karen,
I thank you so much to join me, I am encouraged to continue to fight for woman. I like your posts too.
Be blessed my dear.
Seka

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Feb 11, 2019
Feb 11, 2019

Oh thank you for reading, too. sis Seka. World Pulse is my place breath. Keep posting, too!

Seka
Feb 20, 2019
Feb 20, 2019

Thanks!

Azah Jackline Chey Epse Abai
Feb 13, 2019
Feb 13, 2019

Congrats I admire your words, the award lifts you high, more grace to your elbow, with love.

Seka
Feb 20, 2019
Feb 20, 2019

What to say? May glory return to God my daughter!
Seka

laison sylvie
Feb 14, 2019
Feb 14, 2019

Am overwhelmed. Congrats mum

Seka
Feb 20, 2019
Feb 20, 2019

Thank you my daughter!

Evelyn Fonkem
Feb 16, 2019
Feb 16, 2019

Great piece Seka.I greatly agree with you that women''s role in maintaining peace cannot be underestimated.

Seka
Feb 20, 2019
Feb 20, 2019

Thank you Evelyn to encourage me. Be Blessed!

uduakedet
Feb 16, 2019
Feb 16, 2019

Amazing..keep up the good work

Seka
Feb 20, 2019
Feb 20, 2019

Be blessed my dear,we are together.

Rahmana Karuna
Feb 16, 2019
Feb 16, 2019

yes we are

Seka
Feb 20, 2019
Feb 20, 2019

Thanks! Together, we are going up!

AC.DDH.BC Human Rights Activists
Feb 17, 2019
Feb 17, 2019

Great job, congratulations

Seka
Feb 20, 2019
Feb 20, 2019

Thanks to you ! I love WP'members!

Seka
Mar 22, 2019
Mar 22, 2019

Wow! Ravie de voir mon drapeau, je me suis dit "quelqu'un de chez-nous"! Comme j'aimerais vous voir de près! Puis-je savoir votre adresse?
Merci et au plaisir
Seka

Berlotte I Antoine
Feb 26, 2019
Feb 26, 2019

The statement is really true "Nothing lasting or permanent can ever be built without women". Nice piece!

Seka
Mar 22, 2019
Mar 22, 2019

You are welcome dear Berlotte
Thanks
Seka

Kirthi Jayakumar
Mar 12, 2019
Mar 12, 2019

You are such a braveheart, Seka! More power to you, my sister!

Seka
Mar 22, 2019
Mar 22, 2019

Happy to hear you again. With WP all thing must change even my heart.
sisterhood
Seka

Juliet Acom
Mar 12, 2019
Mar 12, 2019

Congratulations Seka,

Keep sharing your story, women must be heard! We must take our place to bring peace to the world for sure!
cheers

Seka
Mar 22, 2019
Mar 22, 2019

Yes Juliet, it is our goal to bring peace in our world.
Thanks!
Seka

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 21, 2019
Mar 21, 2019

Dear Seka,
What a powerful call to action, and a reminder that "We cannot ignore that women are real agents of change in society". Together we are challenging custom as it is repeated today. It is hopeful that old sayings are still repeated that respect the value of women. It is the perspective and generosity of heart that we have to offer, that is missing and so needed in all of our countries. I hope your strong message travels far and wide.

Seka
Mar 22, 2019
Mar 22, 2019

Dear Tam,
We are comforted that our voices are beginning to be heard. We hope things will not stay the same as long as we continue to scream. However, we need to know the right way to do it. Please stay by our side as you do (our elders in the WP).
In sisterhood
Seka

Neema Namadamu
Dec 18, 2019
Dec 18, 2019

Dearest Seka,
What a beautiful conveyance and come-from of the heart of women. Your message speaks of the unflappable resilience of women. We are everywhere, holding the future of humanity, not just in our womb, but in our love, in our longsuffering, in our eyes that see the more beautiful world we know is not only possible, but already present within us and somehow manifesting through us; manifesting in our humble knowing, our ability to weather the worst evils of patriarchy as it desperately tries to abort the future coming through us, pulling us into itself. We are its carriers, its protectors, and will die giving birth to it if necessary, for the world's sake. Thank you for giving it voice, for putting words to its heart. Love.

Seka
Dec 19, 2019
Dec 19, 2019

Hello mum
Thanks for reading my post and giving strong words to encourage women. Of course we are its carriers, its protectors, and will die giving birth to it if necessary...
Have a great day!
With love.

MADELEINE BWENGE
Jan 02
Jan 02

En principe, la femme demeure un véritable agent de la Paix. Sans elle, il est quasi impossible aux hommes de parler un langage de Paix. Cependant, lorsque les hommes planifient leurs guerres, souvent ils n'informent pas les femmes. Ce qui fait que celles-ci devient victime de la situation entretenue par son compatriote masculin. Dans notre Pays, la République Démocratique Du Congo, le déséquilibre criant observé dans la promotion du Genre, entraine que le rôle que la femme doit jouer pour bâtir la Paix, mais aussi pour la maintenir demeure encore insignifiant.

Madeleine Bwenge

Seka
Feb 10
Feb 10

Merci Madeleine de renchérir ma pensée. Nous devons persévérer dans la lutte pour arriver à cette promotion du genre afin de pouvoir bâtir la paix dans notre pays.
Où vis-tu ma soeur, moi je suis à Bukavu.
Merci et à bientôt!
Seka