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NEPAL: Witnessing Resilience

Stella Paul
Posted April 25, 2016 from India

“Even with these extreme adversities, I am amazed by the level of inner strength of the common Nepali people, especially the women.

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Stella Paul | India

Kavrepalanchok, Nepal:

Twenty-three year-old Sabita Nepali stands in front of a makeshift hut, holding her two-month-old infant son. It’s a hot April day and Nepali must go fetch drinking water—an arduous journey of climbing down the mountain and returning with a 30-liter water can. While she is away for five hours, the only person to look after her baby boy is her 4-year-old daughter. Like scores of other women in the country, Nepali lives alone with her children as her husband is working as a laborer in Saudi Arabia.

I met Nepali in Chandeni Mandan village in Nepal’s Kavrepalanchok district on the 17th of this month. When a 7.8 magnitude earthquake hit Nepal on April 25 last year, Chandeni Mandan was one of the worst affected villages. Thirty-six people died here and 100% of the houses were demolished that day. The quake and dozens of aftershocks also destroyed the water supply system, adding to their woes.

A year later, the villagers are still living in tiny tin sheds which get extremely hot during the day. The sheds were built by the government and different aid agencies after the earthquake. The government also gave them 25,000 Nepali rupees ($230 US) and some agencies distributed free food grains.

But nobody provided them water. So, the villagers are forced to buy from private water suppliers. Those who cannot pay must fetch it from the river far below their mountain village.

The fact that a woman has to carry water for five hours every day soon after giving birth shocks me. "How can you do this?” I blurt out.

“What options do I have? If I don’t go, my children will die of thirst,” she says.

Chandeni Mandan is the last stop on my eight-day journey through Nepal to see the status of locals one year after the earthquake. I am with a team of national and international journalists, invited by the United Nations Environment Program (UNEP).

The village of Chandeni Mandan has nine hamlets. Across all the hamlets, I meet women, carrying a water pitcher in a ‘doko’ (bamboo basket) on their backs. They walk up the dirt road of the mountain village, weighed down by the heavy pitcher. Among the women are two girls—Rekha and Geeta, both barely 11 years old. "What about their education?" I wonder aloud.

“The summer vacation has started. So, we do not have to go to school now,” they say.

But what happens when the vacation is over? “We don’t know yet. Maybe we will wake up earlier than now and fetch water,” says Geeta. “Maybe I won’t go to school again,” says Rekha.

The situation is heartbreaking. Yet, the women of Kavrepalanchok are not sitting idle, waiting for water aid to reach them. Instead, they are brainstorming, trying to find a way out of the crisis on their own.

The day I reach the village, women from all the hamlets have gathered in a meeting. I hear them talk of rainwater harvesting. “In another two months, the monsoon will come. We want to harvest this rainwater to ease the current crisis,” says Seeta Nepali, a villager.

The problem, however, is that installing a water tank on their tin sheds is not possible. So, they are also lobbying for a concrete house with a sturdy roof and coordinating with the government on a plan to lift the water from the river below.

Their enthusiasm and bravery impresses me. I remember the other efforts I have seen in the past few days to beat many environmental, livelihood, and climate challenges.

On April 14, the day after I reached Nepal, I was in Bhanjyang, a village on the higher ridges of the Panchase mountain forest. Our team spent the night at a home stay facility run by three sisters. It was dark and there was no electricity when we reached the facility. The women were cooking on awood fire and the room was filled with smoke. I was about to feel sad for the women when I noticed light coming from the back of the house.

“We have solar power,” one of the sisters said. The eight panel powered bulbs run only for a few hours and light only two rooms, but at least they can still run their business. “We cook in the oil lamp, but serve food to our guests under the solar light, so they can see what they are eating. And we also run a refrigerator, so guests can have a chilled drink,” she said.

'These women know how to turn the tide in their favor! They do not need my sympathy!’ I thought.

During the next few days, I would have this feeling several times while watching women in villages shaken by the earthquake or destroyed by a landslide rebuilding their lives against a hundred odds.

In a village called Sidhane, a 74-year-old woman is running a home stay facility because she wants her 12-year-old grandson to study in a good, private school. In another village, Damdame, Bhim Kumari Gurung is discovering the joy of clean energy at 65 years of age by installing a biogas station at her home that runs on buffalo dung. In Sitapaila neighborhood of Kathmandu, Divya Karki, a young woman, conserves water and electricity by washing her utensils in trickles of cold water in her backyard instead of pumping it up her first-floor kitchen. And in Pokhara, Lal Kumari Pun, a World Pulse community member, tells me that she would work to conserve the forest of Red Rhododendron—the majestic national flower of Nepal that is fast declining. “There were so many Lali Gurans (the local name for the flower) in my village, right now I miss it so much,” she says, her voice choking with emotion.

The earthquake of Nepal killed over 8,000 people and affected 8 million others. According to multiple reports published by international aid agencies, though progress has been made, the status of disaster recovery in Nepal is far from perfect. In the past week, I have witnessed this in Kathmandu, Kavrepalanchok, Kaski, and Parbat—four districts hit multiple times by the earthquake and landslides and flash flooding. I have seen the extreme struggle for basic amenities like water and electricity. I have seen school houses still in a broken state, students out of classrooms, running errands because their fathers are away in foreign countries.

But, even with these extreme adversities, I am amazed by the level of inner strength of the common Nepali people, especially the women. I remember Bishnu Mani Nepal, a social worker from Dhulikhel-based NGO Samaj Seva Samuha telling me that the women of Nepal are “extremely resilient”.

As I board my plane in Kathmandu’s Tribhuvan International Airport, my mind races with a question: Is the government taking the women and their resilience for granted and neglecting its own duty towards them?

It’s a question that will linger in my mind for a while.

Meeting Nepali women a year after the earthquake

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Apr 25, 2016
Apr 25, 2016

What can we do specifically to help you?  The mothers in Nepal's deep rooted desire to care for their familes and to maximize what little they have is an inspiration.  But one I wish need not be their burden. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and again reminding the world that there is still much that needs to be done to help the families in Nepal.  I grew up in New York where moms complained about carrying their strollers and groceries up two flights of our walk up home.  Such an incredibly small inconvenience when compared to their sister's burden thousands of miles away.  Each day I feel heavy with obligation I will remember that there are women juggling so much more and all the while balancing much needed water for their families on shoulders already carrying the weight of the world.  Thank you again for your post.

May 31, 2016
May 31, 2016

Hello BuzzingBee. I was also very appreciative of her report on post-quake Nepal and the challenges women are facing. You asked "what can we do?" Our US-based nonprofit works with a Nepali NGO Shakti Samuha (a group formed by formerly trafficked women to help girls returning from the sex trade and to keep them out of it in the first place). We support girls' education and women's economic development through Shakti, and last fall had a $29,000 campaign to stand with them after the quake. We will be continuing to support Shakti's work, and take Learning Tour groups to visit/learn/build friendships every other January. Here's the report from our trip in January 2016:

I didn't come to this site to troll for donors, but when I saw your post, I wanted to reach out. btw, 100 percent of donations to our Special Projects go to the programs themselves. We can do this because this is not all we do--our main work is to try to transform US society--consumerism, self-absorption, disconnection with the earth, etc.

Anyway, best wishes--

David Radcliff


New Community Project

Liza Pun Magar
Apr 25, 2016
Apr 25, 2016

Thanks stella for covering the stories of Nepali women .Yaap stella , with the hardships of different issues like carrying a doko ( basket) for water supply , caring children , drop out the school and to do household works for surving especially girl etc. is going on here in Nepal after earthquake ..... Even these hardships the women are bravely handle their lives..

Apr 26, 2016
Apr 26, 2016

Thank you Stella for sharing the post earthquake experience of Nepali women. My mind also races along with yours on what the government is doing to help the women. 

Much appreciations for your good work of speaking for the voiceless women in forgotten communities.



Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
Apr 30, 2016
Apr 30, 2016

Thanks Stella This is an eye opening story. Many things we take dor granted while our fellow sisters are suffering. I stand with them in this struggle for basic necessities. I pray that the Government of Nepal comes to the aid of these women in Nepal. Thank you for sharing

May 04, 2016
May 04, 2016

nice piece. so touching what women go through to keep their families

Jun 24, 2016
Jun 24, 2016

All the calamities come with pain and end with a new journey. I hope the Nepal will grow up again with its endless enthusiasm.   

Namrata Sharma
Mar 09, 2019
Mar 09, 2019

The resillience of the Nepali people, particularly the woman has been forever taken for granted. Nepal, throughout history has been a very self sufficient sovereign nation overcoming its own difficulties and that was not long ago (45-50 years ago) but in recent times, we are able to witness many examples of how the people in power have exploited this very nature of the people for their own selfish motives.
The women leading in all fronts are our hope.
Thanks for writing this.