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NIGERIA: Why I Stand With Her

Hawwah
Posted December 12, 2019 from Nigeria

In this beautiful prose poem, Hawwah explains why she stands in solidarity with women globally.

“It is by standing together that we can make her voice and cries heard.

Today, I stand with her, she who was regarded as a person of no consequence, on the basis of sex. 

Today, I stand with her, she who the world conspired to deliberately deny her of her place in it, on the basis of sex.

Today, I stand with her, she whose childhood was stolen from her by lecherous men without discipline and self-control, men who preyed on her innocence, nativity, and vulnerability, on the basis of sex. 

Today, I stand with her,  she who, without any education, training, preparation, or experience, had entrusted upon her the most important job in the world, on the basis of sex.

Today, I stand with her, she whose dreams were stolen, her ambitions shattered, and her potential destroyed, on the basis of sex. 

Today, I stand with her, she who lives with coercion and control, and she who was forced into a life she neither wanted nor bargained for, on the basis of sex.

Today, I stand with her, she who sacrifices everything, and makes all the compromises without ever being acknowledged for them, on the basis of sex. 

Today, I stand with her, she who never lived, but merely existed so that others could live, on the basis of sex.

Today, I stand with her, she who has had to learn to multitask and work ten times harder to get only half of what she deserves, on the basis of sex. Today, I stand with her, she who was manipulated into enduring and accepting abuse from those who should have protected her, on the basis of sex. Today, I stand with her, she whose efforts, contributions, and value is often neglected and unappreciated, not because they are of no value, but on the basis of sex. 

Today, I stand with her because we all have to stand up with her and for her. 

It is only by standing together that we can end the abuse, the bias, the inequality, the discrimination, the injustice, the inhumanity, the violations, the deprivations, and the stigma meted on her, on the basis of sex. 

Today, I stand with her. It is only by standing together that we can make change happen and give her a life—not just an existence. It is by standing together that we can make her voice and cries heard and taken with significance, validate her dreams, and amplify the demands for her rights as one of the most important creations on the planet.

Today, I stand with her, she who brings forth life, and I pledge to stand with her for as long as I breathe.

I stand with her because I AM HER. We all are HER.


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Tola Makinde
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

Dear Hawwah,
Your prose poem got me visualising the struggles , the pain, abuse and rejection she faces daily. #i stand with her too

Thank you for sharing
Hugs

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Dear Tola,
Thank you for your comment. Yes, the struggle is real.
And the earlier we acknowledge them, the earlier we begin to find solutions.
I am honored to share my thoughts with you all.

Hawwah

Oluwatoyin Olabisi
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

Beautiful Write up which expresses the various injustices faced by women.
Celebrate you and keep up your work in promoting issues which concerns Women and the Girl Child.
Please follow back

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hello Oluwatoyin,
Thank you for your feedback and advice.
We cannot afford to not talk about thee issues. The price of silence is much higher than that of speaking up.
Truly appreciate. following you right away.

Hawwah

Madhuri Deshkar
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

प्रये, आपकी कविता मैने पडी।कविता सर्धष, प्यार है मुल्य है जो मैरे कार्य मे मदत गार हे

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hello Madhuri,
Thank you for your comment, except I cannot read it; lols.
You bear the same name as my favorite Indian actress, Madhuri Dixit, which officially makes you one of my favorite sisters.
Thank you very much.

Hawwah

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

Hello, dear Hawwah,

Congratulations on becoming a Featured Storyteller! Very powerful post especially the last part when you wrote, " I stand with her because I AM HER. We all are HER." This gives us a perspective on doing what we do until all women and girls are safe and protected from all forms of violence.

Well-deserved, sis!

Hawwah
Dec 18, 2019
Dec 18, 2019

Hello Karen,
Thank you very much for your kind words.
I tried to encapsulate all the things I know women go through regardless of privilege because I realized that even the privileged ones experience one form of discrimination or abuse. So yes, WE are all HER in one way or the other. I hope I succeeded in doing that.
I am so honored to be a part of world pulse and more honored to be a featured storyteller.
Thank you all for the encouragement and support to me and all women all over the world.

Hawwah

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 18, 2019
Dec 18, 2019

You're welcome, dear sister. You wrote it powerfully well! Your award is truly well-deserved! We are honored and happy that you are here, too. Keep on writing! There's no stopping now. :)

ANJ ANA
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Dear Hawwah,
Beautiful. congratulations on being featured story teller, my sister.
Standing together to make the voice louder and clearer. #istandwithyou #istandwithher
love and regards,
anjana

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hello Anjana,
Thank you for your kind words.
Yes, we need to stand together to be able to really make any difference for us.
Because no one else will.
Thank you for the honor.

Hawwah

Anita Shrestha
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Thank you for sharing

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hello Anita,
Thank you for your kind comment.
I appreciate it greatly.
Knowing we can make a difference and doing it in our own little way is the greatest power of all.
Thank you to everyone on world pulse.

Hawwah

Wusufor
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Dearest Hawwah,
Congratulations! I knew this was waiting for you :-).
When is time for flying to the moon, I will like to be a guest haha :-).
Regards

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hello Lisbeth,
Thank you for your kind words.
I wonder how you knew it was waiting for me, lols
Thank you for knowing anyways. And yes, we shall all fly to the moon together.
Every one of us. No one will be left behind.

Hawwah

Wusufor
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hahaha :-D
We definitely will fly together ;-).
Hugs

Jill Langhus
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Congrats, Dear Hawwah! Great job!

XX

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hello Jill,
Thank you very much.
I was able to achieve this because of the genuine love and support I got from world pulse.
It's not my own, it is all of us.

Hawwah

Jill Langhus
Dec 18, 2019
Dec 18, 2019

Hello dear:-)

You're very welcome!! Yay!!

XX

otahelp
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Dear Hawwah, wonderful and well articulated picture you painted her. thank you very much for sharing and congratulations for winning the wonderful award

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hello Otahelp,
Thank you for your kind words.
Truly appreciate.

Hawwah

maeann
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Dear Hawwah,

Congratulations on becoming a Featured Storyteller! Your poem is so powerful!

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hello Maen,
Thank you very much for your kind words.
Deeply appreciate.

Zohra Elias
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Hello Hawwah,

Thank you for sharing this meaningful poem that resonates within our hearts; because it has a strong message to all women.
congratulations for the story award winning !

ARREY- ECHI
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Dear Hawwah,
Congratulations for the story award. What a beautifully crafted writing summarising women's plight in a few short but poignant paragraphs.
The last lines, deep and reflective.
Well done.

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hello Arrey,
Thank you for your kind words and commendation.
Appreciate greatly.

Hawwah

Leonora Le Saldo
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Than my sister for sharing this powerful poem. You ended beautifully "We all are HER" may you continue to shout #IStandWithHer for this is our responsibility to stand with each other.

Marie Abanga
Dec 15, 2019
Dec 15, 2019

Dear Hawwah,

Congratulations. Indeed, we are all HER. Keep it flowing
In sisterhood
Marie

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Hello Marie,
Thank you for your kind words.
Yes, indeed, we are all HER.
In sisterhood,

Hawwah.

Ekitah
Dec 16, 2019
Dec 16, 2019

Hi Hawwah!
Thanks for sharing this wonderful poem. Its so inspiring. Congratulations for being a feature story teller. More grease.

Hawwah
Dec 27, 2019
Dec 27, 2019

Hello Ekitah,
Thank you for your encouragement.
Yes, we must stand with HER.

wendyolowosibi
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

It's amazing the phenomenal power a Woman gets when she knows she has a Solid Support System. #Istandwithher

Hawwah
Dec 27, 2019
Dec 27, 2019

Absolutely Wendy.
We all have the power, we are all MAGIC.
What we lack is the support system.
Which is why we MUST support each other and stand together.
No one will do that for us.
World Pulse is a support system and a true blessing.

Obisakin Busayo
Dec 18, 2019
Dec 18, 2019

Dear Sister,
You are so inspiring! Your poem gives me more strength and encourages me to keep standing for her tirelessly despite all odds. I really appreciate you!
Love
Busayo

Hawwah
Dec 27, 2019
Dec 27, 2019

Dear Busayo,
Thank you very much for your kind words.
Knowing I can inspire someone somewhere is what inspires me.
We must stand TOGETHER

Tamarack Verrall
Dec 19, 2019
Dec 19, 2019

Dear Hawwah,
"I pledge to stand with her for as long as I breathe...I stand with her because I AM HER. We all are HER"
Yes, yes, yes!!! So glad to be standing with you dear sister.
love in sisterhood,
Tam

Hawwah
Dec 27, 2019
Dec 27, 2019

Dear Tam,
So glad that you also stand with her
We all MUST stand with HER. We are all HER.
In love and sisterhood.

Spiritedsoul
Dec 21, 2019
Dec 21, 2019

To beautiful and moving poem, thank you for sharing and for your solidarity.
Hugs and love,
Jess.

Hawwah
Dec 27, 2019
Dec 27, 2019

Hello Jess,
Thank you for your kind words.
In love and sisterhood, we STAND

Wendye Savage
Dec 27, 2019
Dec 27, 2019

Outstanding piece.

Hawwah
Dec 27, 2019
Dec 27, 2019

Thank you, Wendy,
In love and sisterhood.

Isabella Unzia
Dec 29, 2019
Dec 29, 2019

I have not been here for long but this is beautiful. Keep it up

Hawwah
Jan 29
Jan 29

Dear Isabella,
Thank you for your feedback. It's good to know many sisters can relate.
In love and sisterhood,

Hawwah

Suchitra Acharjee
Jan 01
Jan 01

Thank you for writing such a touching poem <3

janeellen
Jan 04
Jan 04

Dear Hawwah,
Your powerful poem has given a voice to my experiences as a survivor of sexual abuse and harassment. Thank you for your words. It is through powerful expressions like these that we can collectively find the strength to break this chain of gender abuse and bias.

Hawwah
Jan 29
Jan 29

Dear Janelleen,

I am honored to know my words have given a voice to your own experience.
That is the objective and motive behind it.
Our voices are our most potent and powerful weapon.
We must use it to the maximum.
In love and sisterhood,

Hawwah

efe
Jan 09
Jan 09

Beautiful piece form a beautiful heart

Hawwah
Jan 29
Jan 29

Dear Efe,

Thank you for your beautiful feedback.

Hawwah
Jan 29
Jan 29

Thank you, Efe,
In sisterhood and love.
Hawwah

SADRAG
Jan 18
Jan 18

Yes We all are Her!
In Solidarity with all!!

Hawwah
Jan 29
Jan 29

Yes Sadrag, we are all her.

Metiege Noel Eve
Jan 31
Jan 31

Sure the power of women is to stand together in one voice to say NO to oppression so I STAND WITH HER. THANK YOU

Hawwah
Feb 02
Feb 02

Thank you too, Metiege.
In love and sisterhood,
Hawwah. xxx

Metiege Noel Eve
Feb 03
Feb 03

We are strong Hawwah

Metiege Noel Eve
Feb 03
Feb 03

We Are strong together as sisters

Bara'atu Nasidi
Feb 24
Feb 24

What a beautiful piece,
thank you for sharing it with us,we should all stand for women's right and fight against gender based voilence.
Lets keep fighting the good fight!

Berlotte I Antoine
Mar 18
Mar 18

I agree! Together we are stronger.